Any techniques that work for socialising?

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Any techniques that have worked for you that prevent socalising with others from draining/exhausting you?

Yes, spending time with only Aspies is much easier than NTs. But as an introvert eventually I need to recharge my batteries by being alone.

As for spending time with NTs it's usually pure terror for me , I have no tips

Being more of a listener, and giving non-committal comments of approval ie. "that's great" and "wow, that's cool". Also follow up questions like, "what happened next?"

Then take more breaks like going to the bathroom or going to get a drink to get a social breather.

Hope this helps you!

Keep it short and simple.

People like to talk about themselves, you master the art of active listening, it's not even necessary to think of the right things to say.

I've noticed that if I find the subject people talk about to be interesting then I don't get tired that easily, especially if the topic is related to my special interests... so maybe socializing with people who have similiar interests would make spending time with them easier?

Absolutely yes, that way your less likely to be floundering for something to say, there's always a safe conversational fallback. Also, email and SMS is invaluable in getting to know if your of a similar mind to people, without exposing yourself to awkwardness. Well, we all know this seeing as we're on a forum but still.

A big thing that's really helped me: you don't need to pretend to be confident if your not feeling it. A lot of people say confidence is a positive trait so for years I pretended to be this really really confident and aloof person to mask my insecurity... I found it hard to get close to people as they felt me to be arrogant, which is bloody unattractive, a big big turn off. I found they were far more likely to respond positively to me when I started really being myself, in fact people can find a bit of shyness or uncertainty endearing as its authentic.