goldfish21
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23 Dec 2017, 2:05 pm
Heh, just a thread I thought I'd post after a brief conversation at a dinner party before a Grinch who stole Christmas performance by a group of local drag queens. (It was fantastic, btw.)
Anyways, conversation went to a story where my honesty cost me $ and my friend Matt said "Always lie to cops. I lie to cops all the time." and I replied with "Yeah, well, I'm neurologically predisposed to automatically responding with my honest answer. Sometimes I have it well under control, but that time it cost me $x." (when a little white lie would have avoided a fine.) Matt's response? "That sounds terrifying." lol I'd imagine in his line of work it would be for sure if he were to impulsively speak the truth vs. tell the little white lies that allow him to get away with all the things he does bending the rules for his business.
We paid our bills and headed over to the show, so I didn't elaborate on anything else.. but a bit later on I caught myself thinking "If that sounds terrifying to you, there is no f*****g way you could handle the rest of ASD," and that thought led me to feeling... Proud? Something like that. We're a pretty f*****g tough lot of people, really, for all that we endure day in and day out. Now if I ever catch myself getting frustrated and thinking "Why me?" I hope my next thought is "Because I can handle it." Others? Maybe not so much. But me? You? Us? We're made for this. We're tough enough to deal with every part of it and make it through life. I'd like to believe that's "Why me?" Because I can, I can deal with it while moving forward with other things in life - often utilizing my particular ASD strengths.
Just thought I'd share for anyone else who this message might resonate with for a little boost in spirits.
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23 Dec 2017, 4:03 pm
Suicidal Thoughts 10 Times More Likely in Adults With Asperger’s
Compared with the general population, adults with Asperger’s syndrome were nearly 10 times more likely to report suicidal thoughts. They were also significantly more likely to have these thoughts than people with one, two, or more medical illnesses, or people with a psychotic illness.
Those with Asperger’s syndrome and depression were four times more likely to report suicidal thoughts and suicide plans or attempts than those with Asperger’s syndrome but without depression. Having a higher level of self-reported autistic traits was also linked to a greater risk.
Co-author and ARC Director Dr. Simon Baron-Cohen said, “Adults with Asperger’s syndrome often suffer with secondary depression due to social isolation, loneliness, social exclusion, lack of community services, underachievement, and unemployment.
Other studies have shown that the suicide ideation is more prevalent among aspies than with those with other mental and physical disabilities and that suicide is the leading cause of the life expectancy being lower for Autistics without intellectual .
disabilities.
I am no hero to have made it to age 60 with undiagnosed autism most of my life, I am a survivor. I had some luck, made a few right decisions, and has some internal toughness also. But all of these factors combined are not true for everybody.
I used to have to deal with intrusive suicidal thoughts. I don't think I've had one in the last ~5 years - if so it was fleeting. Not like when they were nearly constant. I haven't had them because I figured out that a buildup of food acids was responsible for my anxiety/depression/suicidal thoughts & the antidote was epsom salts on my skin for the magnesium & sulphur our bodies require to urinate the acids out. After the first 5 days of epsom salts on my skin, the worst depression of my entire life that had worsened for 5 straight months was all but completely lifted. I've read that 70% of people on the spectrum are sensitive to salicylate acids. In my experience, it's this acid sensitivity that's responsible for such thoughts & we can mitigate it with some basic minerals.
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23 Dec 2017, 4:10 pm
Also try Vitamin D. "They" are now discovering that it does a lot more than "they" thought, including help with blood pressure, kidney function, wound healing, emotional regulation. And if we're largely housebound, we probably need some.
A key thing I learned this year, too. It wasn't until I was out in the Sun for 5-6 weeks that my brain felt like it was fully firing. Then I learned that Vitamin D isn't a vitamin at all, it's a hormone, and we can supplement it all we want but without UV light we can't absorb and utilize it! It was in hindsight that during last Winter, the lowest light Winter of my entire life, my brain functions slipped and ASD symptoms amplified quite a lot. This Winter I've been taking ~6,000iu of liquid Vitamin D immediately before hopping into a tanning bed for the UV light and while I haven't kept up a regular schedule, it's definitely worked wonders. My brain functions are more like June than January.
Although, right now, I've been taking doxicycline for nearly a month and have another month to go, possibly switching to a different drug if this skin rash isn't cleared up completely.. and the antibiotics are definitely undoing the good of the probiotics I take all the time to keep my ASD in check. Soooo, I'm not exactly optimal this Winter - but whatever, such is life - life goes on.
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It's Christmas time so I treated myself to fish finger sandwiches for lunch the other day. I bought one of the little boxes of 10 as I've no freezer. I had five on day one, fried 
and on day two when I tipped the remaining ones out of the box, THERE WERE SIX! 
I stayed happy for hours, an extra fish finger.
I do get depressed sometimes but I also get enormous amounts of pleasure from little things normal people barely register.
24 Dec 2017, 6:17 am
I do believe to an extent that we're "built" to survive against occasionally seemingly impossible odds.
Go us.
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24 Dec 2017, 7:59 pm
somehow I stumbled to the place where i'm at now. 
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