Childfree Aspies around?

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I never could stand the behaviour and noises of little children, even when I was a child myself. So I never wanted children of my own. And turns out I'm to much of a loner too, so no relationship for me either.

Are there Aspies around here that have deliberately chosen to stay childfree?
Are you also not good with living with someone?

I'm child free and partner free. As a Trans guy, I'd rather have it that way. I'm too much into Germany and war to have a traditional relationship and family of my own. The truth hurts, but is is what it is. Why can't I be into peace like the rest of the people on WP.

Now I'm comparing myself to everybody else. Why do we do that?

For me it was just 'n eyeopener and a relief that being the weirdo I am is just because my aspergers. I feel pretty normal now I found my own little place in the Universe.

My Aspie mother was all about minimizing her time at child care, but I think she was a bit disappointed that we never grew closer as adults. I decided that I should wait to have children until I could support them on renewable energy, etc. which never happened. There is definitely no lack of children - I'm more concerned with keeping others safe than presuming to take responsibility for more.

Children are kinda a nuisance to me, even dealing with my kid relatives took extra patience for me when they were much younger.

Yes, cannot stand screaming and kids in general.



Don't know because i have never tried it, but i would appreciate the company if the right girl would find her way into my life, but i'm not really looking and have given up on dating so the likelihood of finding someone is close to 0. I don't have a problem being alone though, i fill my life with other things.

No kids for me. I work with children, and I'm good with them and all. But I couldn't handle not getting to go home to my "fortress of solitude". What's pretty weird is that when I'm at work, I can handle all the chaos and noise, but if a kid is being loud on the bus to or from work, it is the most annoying thing ever.

Also can't handle living with others well. No matter who it is, I will always feel like they're stepping over my boundaries.
I tried living with my boyfriend for two years, and by the end we were close to ripping each other to pieces. Now he's moved out, we see each other about once a week, and the relationship has never been better.

I'm proud to say that I'm children, wife/girlfriend free and clear. I also choose to live alone for the same reasons.

And those reasons are quite simply - children are a major source of overstimulation for me and all of the noises they make are instantly irritating and intolerable for me. The sound of a crying child will cause a meltdown in itself because of the painful memories I endured as a child myself. As a 42 year old guy I'm still very much prone to inappropriate outbursts of crying and emotion. My meltdowns come at least once a month so I need minimize overstimulation as much as possible. As we all do I'm sure.

When a child starts to cry I immediately put my hands over my ears and I will run out of the area as fast as possible - they're just THAT much of a problem for me.

And a nagging wife or girlfriend or roommate would probably cause the same kind of overstimulation, although to a lesser degree. To hear that kind of negative overstimulation on a daily basis would put me right over the edge and fast.

Silence is golden and QUITE necessary for me.

Kids are the worst. I just got a third cat.

I never desired children of my own, not because I dislike them or find them to noisy, even though at times they are to much. My main reason was that I know children require a lot of coddling and empathy due to the fact they are unable to regulate emotions on their own. They also require that adults be able to "play" and become part of their world. Pretty much all the things they need to be happy healthy individuals besides the basics are the things I have the most trouble with.

I never found it fair to bring a child into the world given my set of characteristics. I also get very anxious as to whether or not I am doing the "right" thing with them. Such as reacting the right way or talking at a level they understand. I know sometimes people in general have a hard time "reading" me, because I am not as animated in my expressions as they are accustomed to.

I do however like to teach them about science and technology and watch their eyes light up when they learned something new or seen a cool trick like bending water or watching a ball roll down hill slower than it should. As their curiosity is something I can identify with.

Anyway that is the reason I won't have kids nor adopt any it wouldn't be fair to them.

Don't reproduce, become a crazy cat lady instead.

I don't have kids and I don't plan on ever having any because I don't want to care for one or live with one. At least not human children. I'm fine with living with someone as long as that someone is my friend or a pet.

I did not deliberately choose being childfree, but it chose me.

I'm asexual so I was never going to have kids anyway. Plus I don't think I could stand the sensation of being pregnant, let alone giving birth.

Due to being autistic and having mental illness, I don't think I could look after children, my own or other.

I have not a clue as to how to raise another human being, from infancy to adulthood, without damaging them somehow.