Why are people offended by everything?

Post Reply New Topic

Last night I saw a post on Facebook saying that breast cancer charities that use shirt like "Save the Boobies" or "Save Second Base" need to be shut down because it was misogynistic. I left a comment asking if it really mattered since the charity was literally saving women's lives. Shouldn't that be enough? I woke up with a reply list a mile long calling me a misogynist a mansplainer and a dozen other names I won't repeat here. Why are people so determined to be offended that they would rather leave cancer patients without treatment than put on their big kid pants and deal with it?

I find people are quite easily offended. Ive pissed off people here by doing nothing wrong. I think the names for that cancer charity should just change the name if it offends people though.

Why? Their purpose is to earn money to literally save people's lives. If it was just raising awareness then I would agree but this money is going to research a cure and give people treatment that could keep them from dying. Since that's the case it makes sense that they would cast as wide a net as possible. Doing this they manage to get money from people who like to laugh and wear funny shirts and not just the super serious crowd.

I don't think 'everyone' finds that offensive...I certainly don't.

Also, you were on facebook, some people seek out stuff they don't like on there just to complain about it, so do keep in mind the reaction you get in facebook comments may not be the same as IRL.

Maybe those people should ask breast cancer patients how they feel about it, how do they know a woman with breast cancer isn't the one who came up with it?

I'm told the reasoning is that women's lives should be saved because they have intrinsic value, while "Save the Boobies" seems to imply that the value of a woman's life is her possession of the breasts that men like. To an extent that rings true for me.

That being said, I'm with you on the pragmatism - if it gets people to open their wallets and boost research that will eventually save lives, I don't give a flying crap monkey what their phrasing is.

Because some people are just over sensitive and looking for drama. Also people who find insults in anything or gets offended over something non offensive have mental issues. I have an aunt like that and she easily gets offended and creates drama with you and makes a big deal over things that are no big deal and makes something a bigger issue than it really is. I suspect she is borderline or a narcissist. My mom agrees she is a narcissist but my husband thinks she also has manic depression and my mom agrees too.

These people are mentally ill who get offended by everything. It's not normal behavior.

But since this happened online, it's hard to tell because these people could just be trolling or they are just stupid. It's hard to tell if they actually get offended by everything if you don't see them posting online often to see how they interact on forums.

Why does it matter to you that some people are upset by things that don't upset you?

And I think it's because it's making breasts into sexual objects and making the issue about men.

And League_Girl, no one gets offended over things that aren't offensive, any more than people can have an allergic reaction over things that don't cause allergies.

I think it's a social justice warrior thing. Political correctness taken to extreme levels. To me it just seems like an excuse to attack others. And by others it seems primarily directed at white males.

Because life experiences aren't black and white. People that are easily offended to the point of being a pain in the ass have probably been abused and only know how to deal with things they don't like in an over the top manner. To add to it, saying things like save the boobies may make women who have had Masectomies feel like less of a woman. Breast cancer doesn't stop at boobs, just like my mom's ovarian cancer didn't stop at her ovaries.

They're cause is honorable but I think a lot of us in here are offended by autism speaks. Just try to ignore the radicals when they get out of hand, they need to learn how to use their heads rather than their emotions to get their points across. They're just being immature. Most people don't have a reason to study emotional intelligence like us on the spectrum.

In all seriousness, I hate when I offend people. Waking up to a mile-long list of angry replies is basically my worst nightmare. I do feel for you, on that count, because it's awful to feel rejected by so many people.

But at some point, you have to look at your own behavior, and try to pinpoint what's causing the rejection. I would recommend trying to show a bit more respect for other people's feelings, instead of telling them to put on their 'big kid pants', and calling them 'self entitled children' for having an opinion different from yours.

This is the Haven, and I hope that comes across as constructive advice, rather than 'misandry'. We all make mistakes, and offend people from time to time, but the important thing is to learn from it, and try to do better in the future.

Because being offended is a new trend and people like to be part of it.