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I will be 33 in May. I havent liked being in my thirties. And I doubt I will like getting older. It just seems like all the magic in life has gone. It wasnt like that in childhood and my twenties. So Im wonering if its normal to be bored and depressed when your older or do I have depression.

Im going to hang out with my neighbor. He use to want to hang out too much ad I had to get the landlord to tell him to leave me alone. I dont think it will be as bad this time if I hang out with him because I have established boundries.

I also have a community support worker that is trying to get me involved in differet things. Hopefully all this will help a little.

My social anxiety is quite bad and I go into sensory overload sometimes. It makes me want to not bother talking to people because it is easier to stay in my comfort zone. But I dont think its healthy to be alone all the time. I have been quite bored and depressed by being alone. I never knew I would be the type of person to need other people but I guess Im human after all.

So is it just me or does being in you 30's suck. And do you find socializing gives you high anxiety? How do you overcome it? I should be making two different threads for this but Im sure it works as one. Some please talk to me. Im bored and lonely and old!

Is fun just for kids?

To be honest I don't exactly understand "normal". I have only 2 or 3 people I interact with on a regular basis. I have looked to Meet up groups to help me work on getting out. There is a social anxiety group, I started an Aspie group, and there are other groups that I find interesting. I try to attend things and events while making sure I have an exit strategy. I joined a Scrabble group and a Euchre group to be able to have activities that weren't in an over stimulating environment. I am currently working on my social skills because I would like to find and retain a partner. I don't enjoy the constant feeling of being lonely and the silence is maddening sometime. Good luck on your journey, being normal kinda sucks as I understand it so I guess we're blessed. lol If you want to shoot the breeze, discuss weather, or Quantum Physics drop me a line. Be advised I know NOTHING of Quantum Physics...just sayin

Life is for young people and couples. Humans were meant to be alone.

So as a single old person yeah all the fun, excitement or enjoyment in life or anything is gone for me.

You’re 30 years old, Sly. You’re not old.

And Sarah’s not old, either.

I’m not old—I’m 57.

Your outlook on life scares me Sly. I have often thought being alone would be more ideal. Safer, less anxiety than being around people. But Im bored. I dont think humans are meant to be alone.

I wouldn't be all that bothered if I died immediately.

How’s it scare you? :s
Oh I meant weren’t meant to be alone. I was posting on break, apple auto corrects correct stuff cause it isn’t what it thought I wanted to say suppose Apple thinks humans were meant to be alone lol

I hate being alone. I’m a very social person, being alone is hell for me. But I’m an aspie, socialist and making friends or getting a gf is hard if not impossible for me given I’m poor and people value people,with money only.

Hang in there buddy.

It is beyond my control. I have lost personal sovereignty.

That’s dilusional.
Ask any 19 year old and they say someone in their late 20s is old.

My life is over now, it’s just a slow decay to death from now on. I never got to enjoy life’s like most people did from 16-25

For me is better be adult.

When I was a child, I didn't have much money, our family was poor. When I wanted something, often it was problem. I didn't want any expensive things. When I sometime bought ice cream and someone from my family saw me so they said how I spend much money. When I needed something, i had to explain it my parents and then wait if they approve it or reject it.

Like I hated explain my parents why i need or want buy something, I haded explain them where I was, when I came at home a bit later. When I wanted go somewhere, i didn't like ask them if I can and explain why I want go there.

Often happend that I came from school, I was happy that finally I will have peace and I will rest. I had some plans, what I will do and my mother came and ask something, what ruined my plans. My mother didn't think effective in this thinks and this I don't like. She sometimes wanted buy something, she asked me, when I came from school. I came at home and then I had to go back to town to buy something. But she could ask me before school, I could buy it after school.

Since l don't live with my parents I feel free.

Last edited by Nira on 03 Mar 2018, 4:38 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Just because you don't agree with somebody doesn't mean the person you disagree with is "delusional."

Yes, a 19-year-old will think 30-year-old is old----obviously.

From an objective standpoint, a 30-year-old person is still young----especially these days. It is said that 30 is the new 25.

I'm a 57-year-old person. Sometimes, I "feel" old. But, in my mind, I'm still very much a youth. And I act it, too---much to the irritation of my wife.

I used to have a boyfriend and the last time I saw him he was 50. He was like a teenager though. Very young at heart.

I dont know for me it just feels like all the magic is gone from life but it could be Im not working hard enough to keep things magical.

..... and my boobs are saggy now!

I've gone out with women with saggy boobs. They were nice in other ways, though.

I'm inclined to believe, perhaps, that you have to make your own joy in life.

When I was in my teens and twenties I thought of being in my thirties and older as being 'old'. I don't think that way now but I will say that when you hit 30 - 35 you probably will have a re-evaluation of what you want and don't want in life. I could really care less now what other people (including WP people) think of me now; I don't care what people think of my own personal life for the most part.

And another thing on the whole dating/lover issue: why on earth would someone who is a stranger to me be concerned with my love life anyways? Who do they think they are by butting into my personal life? Ask these people that same question and see what happens.