Aspie musicians: how do you market yourself?

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So I don’t really play music professionally, but I’ve played music on and off. I notice that when I perform people seem to notice me more than my actual music. I don’t like this and it makes me hate performing. I’d rather people just notice my music. Maybe it happens because I don’t practice enough. Does anyone else have this problem? How do you immerse people in your music more than you as a person?

It probably means they're attracted to you.

Women find men who play music sexy sometimes---and vice versa. That's "just the way it is." I've often lamented my lack of talent in music; I would have done "much better" socially had I been a musician.

If I see a pretty woman play music, I might become "too much" into the woman, and "not enough" into the music.

I have really simple aesthetics when it comes to music. I don't have a "refined ear." Anything that sounds melodious and not too dissonant sounds okay to me.

I like pop rhythms and rock rhythms because of their simplicity. I can like jazz; I don't like monotonous jazz at all; thee has to be a variety, an improvised sense to it. I like bebop; I don't like "cool" jazz.

It could be they want to "look into your soul" or something like that. They see a person playing music---and some people think you have some "entrée," or insight, in God or spirits or metaphysics, or something similar. Insight into something "higher" than themselves. It can be nuts sometimes. I used to get very envious of people with musical talent.

These sorts of things are hard for people to articulate, frequently.

It's sort of like why people can't say "why" they are "in love" with somebody.

I think that people get a very different view of a person when they watch that person playing music, and some part of it is intangible and indescribable. It's amazing sometimes, to watch a person do what they do. And it's a different experience to watch a person play an instrument than it is to listen to them but be unable to see them.
I'm also a musician, and I love watching myself play on video. It's really interesting. Sometimes it can be really intense and nerve wracking to practice or play for or around people. Sometimes it helps. It almost always changes it. I've also been a street musician.
The only way to take the visual aspect out is to do just that, take the visual aspect out. Audio recordings.
Don't know how to market it, though.