Lonely frustrated female with autism

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I'm wanting to expand my social circle, make more friends, and someday get married. I'm just really frustrated because for example, I joined a dating site awhile back and under "looking for" I put friends. I've gained some weight over the last few years and am insecure about how I look. I make very clear I am looking for friends because I've never thought it wise to entertain romantic expectations straight out the gate, at least for me. I'm not opposed to a friendship turning into something more, but I may have issues when it comes to the physical part. After hearing from my dentist how more germs are in our mouths than in our butts, I am totally grossed out by the idea of kissing, and I have been voluntarily celibate since 2011 after multiple bad experiences. So I'm lonely, I'm very articulate, I wish someday to get married but since I haven't had a relationship last long enough to be considered long-term, my hopes are not high. I will say that my previous boyfriends were either verbally abusive, lazy moochers, or pathological liars. I think my autism differences used to be interpreted as weakness. I've certainly been the victim of theft enough to sympathize with people who sometimes feel targeted as an "easy mark." My social skills have improved immensely over the last few years, so it's possible I could maintain a longer, more stable relationship with the right person. Like I said, my last bf was in 2011 and he sullies the good name of bf. I mainly want someone to talk to and hang out with and get to become really close friends. I haven't been on here in years so I have no idea if anyone will respond to this. Anyway thanks for letting me ramble. Just another lonely day.

Umm... I wouldn’t leave my email to the open here if I were you.

Yes I agree w/ Boo; if you'd want people to talk to you they should just send you a PM and then discuss other means of communicating after that

Yeah, this is, like, the golden rule of using the internet: NEVER give out your personal information openly like that. Because, contrary to popular belief, anything posted on the internet is NOT private.

Ok well I can't go back and edit it anymore. I'm not too concerned because it's an email I can just delete because I rarely use. I appreciate the words of caution but I would have appreciated even more some response to my post as well. I'm back on here after years of not going on here because I'm trying to find more ways to connect with and get to know people.

Hi nice to meet you.

Are you seeking online friends or in person friends? 0.o

I am seeking either or both. But online to start with. I learned the hard way not to meet people off craigslist lol.

You could set your "looking for" to "relationship", and then mention on your profile that you want to start out as friends. I've seen lots of girls on OKC do that.

If it's any consolation, this forum does have some spam/bot protection for emails, but if it still worries you, you could always ask a mod to edit your post for you.

Ok thanks how do I do that?

Report it (as you have done) and include a link to the thread. Then we can easily and quickly find and remove it for you.

Big Brother is always watching @_@

If you want someone kind, you should talk to sly.

I personally no longer have the energy for long distance friendships or beyond.

What's the point of replying specifically to tell me you don't have the energy/won't make the effort to make new friends? Why bother replying at all?

Don't mind Boo, he's new here.

There shouldn’t always be a point behind every post; welcome to WP.