Asexual aspies, do you find Aspergers influences your asexua

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I identified as asexual before I self diagnosed myself with Aspergers so now I wonder if I just thought[i][/i] I was asexual because I didn't know I was touch repulsed? Whenever I think of having sex I can't insert myself in the situation but I don't mind thinking of other people having sex. I can say with absolute certainty that I would be okay with never having sex for the rest of my life, but that doesn't necessarily mean I'm asexual. It just means I have no interest in having sex because I don't like skin-to-skin contact.
Any aspie aces or non-aces with touch aversion, how do you know you're asexual or just don't like touching?

I think ASD does play a factor in my being ace. So does being trans for me. For me, it's more like part of the cause, rather than an alternative to how I see myself. ASD for me, gives me the 3rd person perspective you're talking about. I don't even really imagine myself in first-person sexual scenarios. If I see someone that is attractive, my brain has a chemical reaction but it doesn't start thinking "omg, sex!"... instead it's more like "omg, so pretty!"... similar feelings to when I see a pretty painting, car, or cute hello-kitty merchandise. I think of sex as interesting, bordering on a special interest for me, but I have no real desire to participate in it. I even find sex to be sexually arousing in some cases but it doesn't inspire me to want to participate in sex with other people. The term that I've found fits this point of view in myself is aegosexual.

I am not quite touch-averse. I am OK with being touched as long as I expect it and I am OK with it. Consent for me goes all the way back to the touch, even for handshakes and hugs. Once that's established I can touch and be touched but I tend to be a little tense. I figure that plays into things as well, but I am not too bothered by it. It's kind of just part of my life.

I definitely identify with asexuality despite some of the grey-areas that I experience. I am a proud Ace, and Aspie they are both who I am.

Don't worry too much about one part of who you are invalidating the other part of who you are. Even if one does cause the other it doesn't mean that they aren't both true. The only exception to this is if you had said you actually wanted sex. In that case, touch-aversion is maybe something you could see if there are ways or therapies that could help you get over those issues. Since you say you'd be OK not having sex then that probably isn't a big deal though.