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Karategurl
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07 Jul 2018, 7:14 pm

If someone always waves at you and smiles when you see them but you never get the chance to have a full conversation with them Can i just ask someone if they want to be friends? I'm tired of trying to find the right time to talk to them. If we exchange numbers i can get to know them better because there isn't anytime to get to know them in school?



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07 Jul 2018, 9:10 pm

Instead of asking them to be friends, why not just ask for their phone number?

Sometimes people are uneasy with having a situation defined and named in the early stages.


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08 Jul 2018, 9:56 am

Plus it sounds needy.



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08 Jul 2018, 11:14 am

And it makes you come off as weird.



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08 Jul 2018, 1:03 pm

If its someone you met on the street randomly, I wouldn't recommend having any conversation.
If it's someone you met through some activity, and they aren't a random person from the streets, it's a more convenient opportunity for friendship.
But you never explicitly "ask" to be friends with anybody, it just happens. Friendship comes by itself, it doesn't have to be a formal thing, or a declaration of "I am your friend".
I know many people who I know are my friends, but we never actually told each other or asked each other, we both already realize we are friends.