30 years old and still alone

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I turned 30 recently but I didn't have a special partner to share my birthday with. Every year I hope I will finally find love but it continues to elude me. People tell me I still have time and that I am still young but I keep getting walls no matter what I do and the opposite of what I am told feels more true.

welcome to the club. i'm in the same boat. do we have cookies here? otherwise this boat sucks...

When I was 30, in 1991, I had nobody, too.

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Fnord, please baaaaaAAAAAaaaaack! off.

Marknis isn't hurting you. Let others choose how to interact with him, if at all, without editorial comment from you.

OK? Please?

Anniversaries and significant dates are the worst. Especially when they are meant to be happy occassions.

I'm going to yet another wedding... alone. I'm not even going to count how many times that has happened, but it's been every single wedding I've ever been to in my life. I've never had anyone to do the first waltz with (we do that in the UK, the bride and groom dance, then the parents, then the groomsmen & bridesmaids join in and then the guests join in... and I sit out the dance).

Another year gone by and nothing has changed.

Sorry, this isn't a very positive response. I can relate is all.

Not being able to read body language and social situations makes this whole flirting and dating undertaking quite difficult. I'm not gonna sugarcoat it. From my perspective/experience, it is basically impossible for me to get anything like a girlfriend.
I remain hopeful that I'll meet a cool girl, some day, who also likes me. Until such time, i'm gonna have to cuddle my sheets some more xD

When I was 30 I was in a relationship (married) where Ive never felt as alone in my life. So while Im not saying your situation isnt uncomfortable for you, Im just trying to say sometimes the things we want all our lives are not always all they are made out to be. If I could advise my old self prior to that marriage I would have said enjoy YOUR life because theres no arguments over how that works. Only you really know how to make yourself happy, and sometimes partners believe they know better which is basically a prison sentance.

Do not despair. I was living with my parents and had never had a relationship at 30. At 31, I was married, had bought a house with my wife and changed my job. It can be done. I had to get completely out of my comfort zone and accept a blind date set up by my mother of all people. Terrifying, but worth it. Perhaps you could try something similar. Anything is really better than accepting loneliness.

I don't know about anyone else, but I needed to hear a positive story like this. Today I've been contemplating doing something outwith my comfort zone. I was feeling a little resentful about doing it because, "why is it always me that has to make the effort." But that's just lazy. I do need to force myself out there.

How did you meet your wife? How did you come about changing your job?

This is awesome <3

Yeah getting out of comfort zone is painful, but can be very rewarding! I need to do this more.

That was fast, you beat even the Middle-Easterns in that.

if I could I would setup a blind date between boo and loam. You guys have alot in common.

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....waaay too tall for me.

If you pay for the flights

If I wasn't about as poor as a student.. given that I'm a student, I might.
It could be the story that would make me believe in true love... "Tall icelandic woman marries short lebanese man through forum for autism".

What an incredible story.