I don't know what to do with my days!

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Hi guys... I really have no idea what to do with 7 days of the week...

I can not work because my Aspergers... I have contacted all the shops and places of work in the areas i can get to locally... no one is looking for volunteers... I have contacted my Council for their help and list of services and their reply was

*Sorry we can't do anything to help you, you have only lived in our Council for 2 months, you need to live here for five years before we can give any funding...*

I spoke to NASUK and they say basically the same thing **Because you don't live under our locality anymore you need to speak with the COuncil you have moved into or your doctor...**

The Doctor says...

** Sorry all i can do is write a letter to your local council telling them the situation of your ASD, Depression and Suicidleness and ask them to help you...**

He did and the council replied with exactly the same bloody thing!! ! What the heck can i do??? I can't speak to anyone as i already have! I am on my own living in independant flat (i don't need supported accomodation)

Sitting on my ass playing PC games all day (at least 18 hours) there is only so many times a week you can go out to the woods... or get stoned... or sleep all day I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!! !

Can anyone point me to speak to someeone in West Sussex UK please???

Social services won't help either.... bescause guess what? **you have to be in the council for 5 years first...**! !! !! !! !! !!

I assume that you have checked out the Links here https://www.gov.uk/government/get-invol ... /volunteer and here https://www.ncvo.org.uk/ncvo-volunteeri ... -volunteer ?

yes i actually have checked those websites (various times since moving) and still they can offer me nothing...

Do-it says there is just nothing available until next year

NVCO just has the same list of resources as the other one... i have contacted all on those lists... some of them say... BLAAHLBAHLBAH fnding... the others say no room... not for you... etc

Trying to be kind to them: it is nearly next year.

Is there an Autism Group for your area? If not set one up?

By NASUK you mean the Nat Autistic Soc? I haven't had any dealings with them, but I know that MIND isn't actually a homogeneous national entity: the Head Office is a PR thing, and the local MIND's pay the HO for the use of the name, NAS maybe the same?

Actually your local MIND may be able to help? They may even take Volunteers, especially if you can do things like help people with PIP and ESA Forms.....

I would suggest not committing to more than 1 day a week to begin with.

Are you able to walk around outside and get a lot of exercise? Go to the library or free museums? Apart from being confined involuntarily to a cell, your description of your days sounds similar to that of an incarcerated felon in the U.S.

Can you make some sort of schedule for yourself to routinely get out of the house?

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You don't need an official volunteer position to help people. Go out and offer people help. Put up signs with your phone number or email address and offer services. Walk dogs or babysit kids or clean gutters or pick up groceries for elderly people. Make Youtube videos or write a blog teaching people stuff you know. Offer to grade papers at the nearest primary school for a teacher.

Do you have no hobbies? Find at least one besides playing video games. And how is it that you can't work, but you can volunteer? Are all the volunteer positions easier than work? What type of volunteering can you do that isn't like a job?

Start studying a language or some other subject that interests you.

I cannot work right now, either.


I try and learn. It doesn't necessarily matter what, though I try and learn more about the field I'm in (computers) whether it's programming, graphics, staying current or what have you.

It's at odds with my difficulty in learn and retaining anything I do learn, but if some of it seeps in then I guess it's worth my time which I'd likely be doing nothing with anyway.

I'm not well-versed with support systems, but I'd agree picking up some of your own "useful" activities would help. Spending a lot of time just waiting on stuff to happen sucks.

There are a couple of centres in the North of England, Preston and Manchester, but first it costs money to get to them, then the centres charge money to attend. I wouldn't be able to smoke, everyone would probably be a lot younger than me and I swear like a f*****g trooper. So f**k that.

The NAS phoneline has actually been very helpful for me over a couple of different things, that is worth trying.

For a small purchase of $10 I can do a self paced course on udemy.com for drawing that will last me weeks and will hopefully land me a job when I build a portfolio of my work. Maybe you could find something udemy or even youtube

You might try practising a physical skill. If it involves exercise, that's good for your whole system. I also get away from my screen to use my hands. I make most of my food from scratch, and enjoy art metalwork and other sculpting. If I were young, I might take up music or juggling. To start on juggling, people use cloth instead of balls, to slow things down. Singing comes in handy from time to time, and costs nothing to learn.
I thoroughly recommend some time in meditation, to restore some ability to focus after exposure to screen time.
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