Difficulty expressing emotion

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Hey, does anyone else have trouble expressing emotions? My hardest emotions to express are happiness and that normal emotion everyone has, when looking at people (it's easier to express it, when I tell something).
What do you find helps?

Smile briefly

Remain calm

Deep breathing

Keep perspective

Ask for what you want

Just keep everything in a list and work your way down. Make sure to keep track of it, too.

Yeah, that's what I usually do. I always have this mental list of topics I want to talk about and it usually works well. Sometimes, though, I'm not really in the mood to talk or have no common topics. Then I have to look at their face, and it gets weird. (It's sometimes hard to genuinely smile. In fact, many people think I look sad, when I'm in my default mood).
Do you have that?

i have big problem expressing things like being sad or hurt. i shell up and behave like a hybrid of hedgehog and porcupine, who also might have skunk genes spliced in. there are people, who can get through or around the defence, and i so treasure them. i have a lot of monickers like "socially unacceptable jerk" or "most toxic person in (community)" for my stress responce. cant much help it either. i really am someone, with emotions like a loaded gun.

So you're the opposite of me, then, Serpentari. I see, you're also from Russia. What region, if it's not a secret?

lets not talk in absolute meanings of "opposite" xd a presonality is a system with many an axis, and then there can be a misunderstanding, at that. as to geographical location, how does that matter? xD

Yes, as to opposite, I meant the opposite of not being able to express happiness and not being able to express pain/sadness. Sorry to not clarify. And I did not mean to connect geographical location to personality, it was only a matter of interest )

overall i have a big problem expressing anything. i need some timeout, because my emotions are a storm. i have a cyclon in my head. so ya most of the time i dont express much of it, because well i'd need several different faces to show what i feel. and i have 1 and it cant be arranged in all the variety of expressions at once. so ppl often blame me for being senseless (which hurts me a LOT). its easier in text, because i can write it all subsequently. if im not in a good shape, my posts turn out to be huge, messy and barely eligible, and i can seem like contradicting myself along the way. because naturally i just see every situation from several angles at a same exact time. same with emotions. i can be irritated, overjoyed, enraged, numb and curious at a same time. how the f.... do i express that with 1 face i've got irl? xD and if i am pushed to give out a reaction, it will be a stress reaction. because i instantly get pissed off for not letting me process and prioritize. or i just shell up and give out nothing but polite/generic/socially acceptable checked presets. thus, senseless and not caring, ya. back to first post, i have a real big problem saying out loud "i am hurt", "this makes me want to cry" or simmilar things. that is attributed to my ptsd and/or life experience rather than autism. never show weakness, ya. blast them the hell, but dont let them see they managed to get to u. shoot first, think second. fight or flight? why not all 3. so ya i am one agressive mother (f-er) xd cross my heart and hope to die xD

You must be a good psychologist...

For me, it's actually hard to express genuine happiness, like, if someone smiles and looks a lot at me, then I'll genuinely smile for a bit, but then I'll get tired of smiling that much, so my smile will soon turn "artificial", 'cuz it's even harder for me to just look normally at them, when they're looking at me)
It's the hardest to look people in the eyes, especially if they're looking at your passports/documents.

i dont have special training in psychology or psychiatry, exept the "learning the hard way" part xd
as to everything u describe, yes, yes and yes. i can do that but i cant be doing an american smile. well, silver lining, the hellhole i live in doesnt have such custom xD we can slightly smile for a sec, as a sighn of politeness (i see u, i am ready for interaction), make eye contact and then can return to rbf and nobody will mind. something has to be good here, m? xd can smile when something is really causing it tho. like a child who is playing nicely or being generally cute. its kinda fashionable to smile when u look at children, but it also kinda happens by itself, at least in my case (unless its my own kid who just had covered herself from toe to hair in paints xD). maybe ur own expressions are just fine by russian standarts, m? maybe its just ur surrounding who cant appriciate u?

If I'm being myself, I would just state how I feel. But, without any affect, this is meaningless to NTs. I would copy people in movies as a kid, so I can "perform" the emotion I feel. It's not too hard to learn, it's just so exhausting and unnatural.