Be careful who you tell things to

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I thought this girl at work (let's call her girl A) was a friend but I was wrong. There's this girl who we both know (call her girl B) but I wasn't keen on her because she flirted with my boyfriend before and I got paranoid, so I told girl A that I didn't like girl B, assuming and trusting that she wouldn't tell girl B that I said that. Girl A and girl B aren't close friends, they just know each other through me. But apparently girl A must have told girl B what I said, because today girl B came up to me and she told me that there's nothing going on between her and my boyfriend and that she loves her own boyfriend. She was friendly about it, and I said sorry and told her that it was just a misunderstanding, and we hugged. I didn't ask her who told her, but I assume it was girl A, because she was the only one I told about how I felt about girl B.
I just wish people wouldn't tell people what you say. I mean, girl A has told me before that she dislikes one of the men at work because his personality just 'pisses her off', and I find the guy is rather nice and good company, but I wouldn't go up to him and tell him that girl A doesn't like him. It's something you keep to yourself. I just thought I'd confide in girl A because I thought she was a friend, but apparently not. I mean, girl A doesn't know girl B well enough to be a best friend, and so I just assumed she wouldn't tell her what I said. I mean, what girl B doesn't know can't hurt her. I bet people talk about me behind my back, because it's what people do, but I'd rather not know because what I don't know won't hurt me.

So I've learnt to not tell people about who you like and don't like, unless you know you can definitely trust them, like if they are a close relative or a really good friend who you'd tell anything to, or your soulmate or whoever you know you can trust. But work colleagues who are just friends with you at work, just keep your mouth shut. I've learnt my lesson now.

I would have to agree: don't tell every Thelma, Dick, and Harriet all your feelings.

I'm glad Girl B was a decent person, and that you had a good resolution to this.

I pretty much assume anything I tell someone will be passed on to someone sometime. Most people cannot resist gossiping. I keep most things to myself.

i've learned that rule much harder way xD

I've made that same mistake before and I'm more than twice your age, so don't feel bad. I think you're a faster learner than me!

I’m still learning this. You can’t trust anyone.

Why was that girl flirting with your boyfriend when she has one? What a tramp.

There's a saying that I think is quite applicable here.

If you can't keep your mouth shut about a particular thing, you can't expect others to

The same impulse that had you tell your friend this was probably present when your friend told the other person

I agree with Joe on this.

^^^^ I agree with Joe and Kraftie. But we are all aspies. I think NTs in general do not experience this obvious to us code of honor.

Yes, i have a tendency to get to clingy and end up spilling all my secrets to someone who wishes to be me wrong

There are people out there who can appear to be your friend but what they really do is gather information so they can make fun of you behind your back because.
1. They have nothing else better to do
2. They have qualities that you have which they lack so they don't like themselves
3. Others gather that information because there are those who will do anything to get attention due to lack of self-worth and self-esteem.

Before the misunderstanding, I saw girl B as a threat to my relationship with my boyfriend, and I was just annoyed with her and that was why I confided in girl A.
But maybe girl A wasn't intending to cause trouble, maybe she said something to girl B because she was concerned and didn't want girl B to cause upset for me. It's just that girl A often tells me things about people we know, and she trusts me not to tell them, otherwise she probably wouldn't tell me at all. It's just that I've had 3 jobs in my life so far (1 voluntary and 2 paid), and in all of them I have experienced colleagues telling each other things about other people, because it seems that's what people do, it's a human thing. People have most probably talked about me too, which I don't mind as long as I don't know. It hurts when you find out that you've been spoken about negatively, but if you don't know then obviously you can't (or shouldn't) dwell on it.