Has anyone ever asked if you have Aspergers?

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Has anyone ever asked if you have Aspergers?
how was the encounter?

wanted to do something different and create a poll.
sorry could only use one-liners, so you can choose multiple options up to 3

Some people miss it even with my blatant stimming, yet both in real life and online a lot of people have noticed far before I ever told them.
My presentation of autism is both rather noticeable and has some stereotypical traits to it.

Interestingly I have also had people come up to me thinking me to be blind. To be fair I stumble a lot, have a service dog, and wear dark sunglasses.

No one has ever asked me except my current GF who did her research then said you might be autistic

No. I have often suspected I have features of the condition, but never wanted to ask anyone else if they thought I may have it.

Where I come from even the so-called "experts" think of autism as a less sever form of mental retardation so I had never been asked if I had Aspergers since noone really knows what it is.

No. I spent over half of my life being undiagnosed, so why would people suspect I have it even now? When you're a female aspie it's like you're invisible.

No.
I would feel so humiliated if somebody were to ask me such a question.

When I was in a performance review meeting at work one time, my supervisor asked, "Would you consider yourself on the Autism spectrum?"

I said yes and she just smiled and nodded.

I think most of my co-workers just knew and accepted I was autistic, they didn't have to ask.

My best friend from work asked me once, and I said no because I didnt want people knowing about it. Her boyfriend has asperger and I think he asked me once too. In both ways I said no, but its funny how they knew

In my case they can either tell or wonder what's wrong with me.

What happens to me is that they do not ask me, but ask the carer who is with me...

It is rather obvious that there is something "wrong", most people think intellectual disability, some recognize autism, but nobody is surprised when they learn I'm autistic.

Yeah so last year I was placed in a random group with this girl from Romania, I was in Austria and we've been working on our final project for some weeks, I started to not wanting to be around her anymore cause we just weren't connecting (as usual) but mainly my reaction was based on hers, I felt her getting annoyed at me ( as yuge)
so in true fashion, I did the same in return..
You see, I'm like a sponge I soak up whatever emotions or attitudes you are spewing and then squeeze it out right back at you

Anyways halfway through the day she just got up and yelled
What's wrong with you, do you have Aspergers or something?
I was shocked, for a plethora of reasons one being that I am daft, and I don't know why I (and many others) fall back on the notion that that non-English speaking people don't know the things that I know with my almighty North American brain what with Aspergers being such a nuanced thing (pfftt silly Rabbit), and also you see ...

I am self-diagnosed, ie. I did extensive research 7 years ago, months of figuring out why I was the way I was as a child, how my faking and mimicking other peoples behaviour molded my current character and separating that and my depression and other ailments from the actual autistic trait ..I did it all by myself!..

I am of the thought that NO one can tell me who I am but me.

So when she asked that, I was so shocked because I've spent years creating a character of normalcy, yes I was bitchy but that was apart of the act (so that you couldn't actually see that I just didn't understand)
so I was impressed and intrigued by HOW SHE KNEW and I asked her
and she went down the list of things and I was like OOOOOOH

So my mask wasn't as fitted as I thought interesting

Anyways, I started to admire, and her me, we finished the project, we got the best grade, I dropped the character, was totally myself. we were friends for like 3 months then she just disappeared!
like ghost-----even though we still had the same classes I NEVER SAW her again

This has become a common theme in my life.

And you know, I get when others that don't know why I act the way I act start to avoid me, BUT with her
I was so disappointed well beyond that- but she never asked me or told me if or what I did wrong. there was no pretension with her,
I was even extra cautious because I didn't want to lose someone as a friend that could figure me out like that .she knew me..
but she still just went ghost.

So I don't know what's up with that!

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If someone did that to me I would assume they were saying that to be insulting & not really expecting me to be on the spectrum. It's like yelling Are You ret*d Or Something. Aspergers is becoming the new insult. i sure as f#ck wouldn't tell someone using Aspergers as an insult like that, that I'm on the spectrum. They may spread the word around & call me that all the time to be insulting. I want to be called by my name NOT a label I have that's being used as an insult.

yeah I was spazzing out and stressed because of the presentation!, so she got frustrated and furious and just blurted it
out. I calmed down after that,
She said she always wanted to ask because she had been reading up on autism and after we calmed down she went down the list of past things I said and did that had her wondering.

and I just laughed because I thought I was acting pretty normal HA! but I guess stress and depression make it harder for me to concentrate on my people skills so

I was once asked if I had ever been diagnosed as being autistic.

Normally, I would have written it off as some kind of insult, but the guy who asked me works with autistic children as his job.

That's what led me to here.

Had Joe Pesci had AS hed be like "yeah i do , so go f yourself !"