Do you hate your life too?

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Fos11
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14 Dec 2018, 3:27 pm

I honestly hate my life. And i have a good reason for that, it is mainly because of my autism. My autism is the reason because my life sucks. And the only reason too. Because of my autism i dropped out of school, and now i have no education at all, that means i have no future. Because of autism i will never be successful, i will never be able to live on my own. Because i am unable to get a job. Especially not a decent one, without education. In the worst case i will simply end up in the streets, and freeze to death. In the best case i will have a job that pays so low that i will never live on my own. Or off disability benefits. I simply have no will to live, no reason to live. The only thing thst keeps me alive is the fear to survive a suicide attempt. And my dog. But not only im autistic, im gay too. That of course makes it only harder. I will probably always be single too. Which guy would want to date a complete loser? Which guy would want a guy which is completely financially dependent on others? Nobody would want that. I would simply be a burden on him, nothing more. And this is why i hate life. Because my life sucks, and will even more suck in the future, when i end up homeless or on welfare. My question is, do you hate your life too? If yes why, and did you ever considered suicide?



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14 Dec 2018, 4:31 pm

Duh.



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14 Dec 2018, 4:34 pm

No, I like my life now. Between 2011-2012, I hated my life, too. I felt like a complete loser. Things changed a lot for me. Right now, I am not seeing any more large changes, but there are a lot of small steps forward.



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14 Dec 2018, 4:41 pm

Again, as is habit for you, stop acting like you know what your future will be. It is impossible to know, and the only thing that habit could do for you is create some self fulfilling prophecies.

I do not hate my life. Am I worried about my future? Yes. Am I going to be in school far longer than I want to be? Yes. Will I have trouble living on my own? Yes. Do I have a lot of meltdowns and co morbids? Yes.

But I still have a chance and will seek it for my entire life.


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14 Dec 2018, 5:40 pm

I dont totally hate my life but Im not happy. I do as much as possible to feel fullfilled but somethings missing. I feel empty.

I dont see why you couldnt get a date. Lots of poor people date. I grew up poor but I still had dates in highschool and after I graduated. Never had a job. You could go on disability for your autism. You could get an independant living support worker to help you live on your own. You could go back to school to further your education. There are things you can do to improve. Just dont throw up your hands and say its over. You havent even tried new things yet. I think you are being too defeatist.



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14 Dec 2018, 5:44 pm

I think all life is suffering. Read Schopenhauer and the Buddha on this subject. But through overcoming our suffering we can achieve a nobility which somehow makes up for all this. It's easy to look at the wealthy and the famous and conclude that the unlimited happiness we're promised by the advertising industry is attainable, but it isn't. All life is suffering, as the Buddha taught, but by practising compassion for others and, more fundamentally, forml ourselves, we can achieve a certain consolation which makes life at bearable.

I suggest that you find a hobby, a cause, an interest - anything to take you out of yourself for a few hours a day.

To answer your question, no, I don't generally hate my life, though I have times of feeling such things, as everyone does. The solution is a healthy social life and interests in things other than oneself. As always, the middle road is the best.



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14 Dec 2018, 5:48 pm

Fos11 wrote:
Do you hate your life too?
Nope. I've finally figured out how to make the best of it, and I'm not going to stop doing so until I die.



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14 Dec 2018, 7:20 pm

I don't hate my life, I just hate the world sometimes.



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14 Dec 2018, 7:47 pm

My future is going to consist of living in a nursing home. So no point in pointing out what I won't have and won't be able to do. Even if I manage to get some kind of college degree, my cognitive impairments and severe coordination disorder will likely keep me from holding a good job. It's a dismal future in some respects. But the thing is I have been around others who have it a lot worse. Like someone I know who's a c-5 quadriplegic. And another who has extremely severe cerebral palsy plus severe epilepsy. So I'm thankful I can at least get up and go to the toilet by myself. And sit here and type. And later play my computer game. That I can enjoy the simple pleasures in life that many can't. For me that's good enough I guess. Not that I don't ever get frustrated. Or don't ever feel hopeless. Or that I don't say 'my life sucks' sometimes. I just don't make a practice of it. I figure why make things worse by being miserable all the time.



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14 Dec 2018, 8:01 pm

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My future is going to consist of living in a nursing home.


If you are lucky. Nursing homes cost money and think nothing of turning the elderly out on the streets if they can't afford them.



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14 Dec 2018, 8:16 pm

I'm trying not to think about it because I was very depressed a week ago. denial seems to be doing me good. but if i had to think about i.. t....

better not, pandora's box is best kept untouched.


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14 Dec 2018, 9:22 pm

TW1ZTY wrote:
EzraS wrote:
My future is going to consist of living in a nursing home.


If you are lucky. Nursing homes cost money and think nothing of turning the elderly out on the streets if they can't afford them.


I meant my immediate future.



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14 Dec 2018, 10:53 pm

EzraS wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
EzraS wrote:
My future is going to consist of living in a nursing home.


If you are lucky. Nursing homes cost money and think nothing of turning the elderly out on the streets if they can't afford them.


I meant my immediate future.

That's good I'm actually glad you can get in one and not end up a homeless 80 year old. :)



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15 Dec 2018, 12:04 am

When I was 13 and 21, I hated my "life"

Right now I do not have my life

Maybe tomorrow I will get struck by a car, and then I will hate my life again

When I was 21, attempted suicide

Bullet got stuck in the barrel of the gun



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15 Dec 2018, 1:15 am

Not really but I sure hate a lot of the people in it.


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15 Dec 2018, 1:26 am

Emotions can be overwhelming. The ideal situation would be if we could let joy take over the controls in our brain.