Anyone lives truly alone?

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It's so, so annoying that despite being by all accounts isolated, rarely having a conversation, I'm still trapped in what feels like a cage between the whims of strangers nearby. Once someone was above me... never again, pure hell, how is that even possible? I could literally hear every step, wtf... I was once bleeding from some extracted teeth while the one above was stomping around like a horse, while still being practically isolated, anything more hellish than that? Only perhaps a jackhammer a few meters away, but at least I wasn't bleeding then...

But why can't people live truly isolated? Why do I have to have the worst of both worlds, alone but not really? A hut with net access in the middle of nowhere is impossible? Can one only have a palace to get away from people? (But that would still be impossible since it'd need cleaning and unless one person does all that... this is all hopeless from whichever angle I look at it.)

All I can do to express my frustrating before being forced to don headphones is to throw a hammer at the floor to counteract all the nonsense they seem to love doing. Like, do they even have a clue about the noisy byproducts of their actions? I've never even seen them, yet hear them all the time, so annoying!

I feel the same way. I've always wanted to achieve perfect solitude, which I've since discovered is basically chimerical in this day and age. There are exceptions however; way out in the Canadian wilderness - why don't you look at moving there, if you're really serious?

A goal I have for the future is to learn how to forage for food and get myself a tent, some warm and waterproof clothing, and go off into the wilderness sometimes to have holidays from being around people.

I found lessons ran by a man near where I live where you can learn to find mushrooms and plants that are safe to eat on walks but unfortunately found out too late, he had finished them for this year. It's on my new year's resolutions, to go to one of his lessons next year.

That sounds awesome! Great plan, fifasy.

I couldn't deal with neighbor noise and it became a vicious circle, when it was quiet I was just waiting for it start up again and it reached the stage where every single noise they made got to me because I hated them so much. I couldn't relax at all. They would play music that shook the house, so i wasn't being unreasonable.

I'm OK where I am now, I just have to avoid bumping into the neighbor when I take the bin out or go to the shops as he seems very keen to strike up a conversation and I'm just not up to it. He's too cheerful and I just can't relate to that.
But I don't think you have to move into the forest to live relatively peacefully, you just need to be lucky in terms of who lives either side of you (or above and below).

I live in a single family home and can barely hear my neighbors when the are just outside their car and I'm in the room closest to them. I do have to do all the cleaning, which I do about once a week. And I'm an expert in fixing stuff. I redid the place with LED bulbs, tossing out all the old ballasts to cut my electric bill.

When I was in college, I lived in an apartment complex where the walls were extremely thin and you could hear everything that was going on. The people living next door to me were really trashy people and had loud parties with a lot of drinking and smashed their beer bottles on the ground. They also had a cat they didn't take care of, which was roaming around lost. I felt sorry for that poor cat.

If you can afford it, there is a guy called Paul Kirtley in the UK that does lots of bushcraft courses he used to work with Ray Mears (that also do similar courses). Paul got a good selection of videos on the subject but the next video will be the last (he will focus on podcasts solely instead), you can find it here:
https://www.youtube.com/user/ThePKirt

I've been reading and practicing bushcraft for a few years now after rediscovering my interest for nature i had since childhood, get the gear and once you get over the shock of "OMG THERE IS NO INTERNET OUT HERE!" you'll discover that mankind did survive without it for thousands of years A bit of rain isn't that bad, bring an umbrella, a tarp or a rainset to wear over your clothes.

As for edible species, don't force yourself to learn them all, especially mushrooms since they have lots of lookalikes that are poisonous. As the saying goes "There are alot of dead experts..."

Just going out the door for a walk in nature when you are stressed, helps lots. I have the benefit of having 4 nature reserves nearby, including one i can get to by a buss that goes almost outside my door. Nature has been of great help to me the last few years, better than any medication.

I was in Ireland, in the far west, hitchhiking. I somehow ended up at a crossroads, far in the country, not a soul or house in sight. It was cold and raining. Everyone that I knew was thousands of miles away and I felt like there was no one in the world but me for a few minutes. I have never felt so good in my life as I did for those few minutes...

Sean

When I was young, city noise never bothered me at all. I recently saw a video where the soundscape was similar to that at an old home, and it was like a babbling brook for relaxation, distant sirens and all. I remember a friend coming back from a hike all out of sorts. He'd been meditating on a mountaintop, and been interrupted by a small aircraft crossing overhead. He'd been visualizing his connection to the cosmos. If he'd been visualizing himself in a sea of other beings, he'd have been fine.
I live in a town with about a thousand people who don't make new friends. I came here to escape the threat of being awoken by a landlady again, as it was activating my PTSD, and had led to two weeks of amnesia. Here, I could buy a house because machines are still replacing people in farming, but the nearest traffic light is an hour away. High speed 'net was the other item on my wish list, but I think I'd be happier with intermittent service. Rural coverage is pretty good now, at a fairly small premium.
I didn't want to be alone in a remote house, which seemed dangerous, especially if I didn't want to feed a watchdog. I've known people remote enough to get cabin fever, and that's no fun. The noise here is fairly rare and predictable, but when I have to, I can camp in my car. I usually go to a nature preserve where my best friend is caretaker. He grew up nearby and knows the locals, and also has animals about.
Ideally, I'd be in the bush down a trail from the yard of an active farmhouse, which would be an effective gatekeeper. I'm OK with having people I know well around - one morning my friend woke me up chopping wood, and I was back asleep before the second log. If anybody wants to help build some off-grid housing, I've got most of what we need except youth.