Do you find 'swiping' boring?

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So... I'm still not sure if it's the only avenue one can find a relationship in, since my first wasn't at all there or anywhere to be expected (here ), but technologically it is the only place... and, I suppose, unless someone else swipes first, but even then I'd need to reciprocate or most free sites won't even notify... but I find it so mind-numbingly boring, I procrastinate on it like I do when I need to clean something, or do some other menial task, despite being for a more hypothetically ideal end... it is, though, still reduced to such a basic form... swiping is kind of like 'cleaning', in fact... brushing left, brushing right... and I'm not sure if there is a problem with my perception or something, but I seem to reject most pictures... which I'm sure happens to me often vice versa, but of course, happily no one is informed of anything.

It's boring, yet the only source of possible revitalization, of a drop awakening a long slumber... but swiping can itself send me to sleep, seriously. Also, I watched Horizon's episode on such dating sites and it doesn't seem like there really is much science behind it, despite their claims. Speculation, perhaps, but no further than those movie sites that simply show a percentage based on how similar two users' ratings are... but then, ratings are subjective and relative. And, even if two happen to meet and on initial contact everything seems almost perfect... and it did at the train station, perhaps awkward, but to me at least, the next seven months were full of such a feeling that I never had before or after... and it increased over time, but plucked out it was, like the flower that has barely opened... of course, without a sun flowers can not quite exist.

Now, for non-plant based species it's not quite as dire, is it? Well, I went from watching films alone, to watching together (over a hundred in seven months, on one hand I wonder if I wasted time I could have spent better, on the other I could almost remember every film we watched together, or at least would if I see the name or re-watch it... and certainly remember the ones when the relationship was straining a bit, like Synecdoche, New York, where the film's inherent existentialism seemed to make him question his very life choices or, weirdly, coincidentally titled Wah-Wah happened to be the one I first watched alone after the departure... like the universe is trying to mock me or something, it is about a separation but they're parents in that story, so different variables)... to watching alone again, although since then I've taken much more of a shift towards animation instead of real-life films, but I watch anything... anyway.

There is something to the process of 'synergy', though, isn't there? Doing something together, not alone... but, apparently, this one, inevitably on the spectrum, seemed to choose being alone... not that after so many years I've any idea what else happened, as last I saw him accidentally was in a pub (not sure how rare that was since I already very rarely go into such noisy environments... and he was supposed to have hated such places too, so I wonder what changed...) - with someone else, but it could have been a work colleague for all I know, And, yet again, anyway... all irrelevant.

Is it all random happenstance, though? It was back then, and it will probably be again... even if it's one among the thousands randomly swiped here or there... but even if it's on some of the biggest sites, after some years does one run out of profiles to look at? I often encounter people I remember from prior sessions... so it seems I'm going around in circles, until new registrations of course. Still, so mundane...

I’ve stopped trying for most part. No one ever swipes right on me as I’m unlovable.

If you swipe right to much most sites hide your account also.

I find women on dating sites usually fit into one of three categories: hideous, repulsive personalities, or way out of my league. Attempting the swiping process is almost entirely me swiping "no" on them for one of those three reasons.

I'm ugly and don't have social charisma, so ultimately getting the attention of the few women I'd swipe "yes" on is nigh-impossible.

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So OP... I guess you get zero matches?

I would categorise you more on the average side than ugly.

Dear everyone: you are not application programming instances.

I will not sugarcoat, you do need to go to the dentist.

Have you ever thought to fix your teeth? Can you get insurance cover for it?

If Sabreclaw was not self-conscious about his teeth before, you just gave him an additional reason to feel insecure.

I didn't think the tooth gap was so severe that a better photo wouldn't overcome it. The angle of the face and over-emphasis on the central features (nose, nostrils, teeth, etc.) are unnatural.

The more successful people on swiping sites have really excellent photography. It's rare that a selfie does the trick, except possibly when people have given a lot of effort to overcoming the limits of the easy cell-phone selfie. There are also apps out there that improve selfies, for instance make your face thinner or your eyes bigger. A lot of the out-of-your-league people are using these tricks.

You are far from ugly dude , get a grip , your self esteem is at rock bottom if you truly believe that , try and build it up and try and love yourself.
There is f**k all wrong with your teeth either , your look is yours and it's unique.

I saw a guy who looks like him kissing a really pretty woman on the train the other day.

Like this out-of-my-league?





Seriously, what people like her even do on Tinder? I don't believe they really need it, I don't believe they're there to find someone.
This one can easily apply for Miss universe .

Maybe she could apply for Miss universe by her looks but she could also be a high maintenance nightmare , have a hidden disability or smelly feet.

This could also be a totally fake photograph.

I bet you would sniff her feet if she offers it to you, don't lie...

Nope....I hate a beautiful woman who smells bad. Probably worse than an "average" woman who smells bad.

Both of them list photography as an interest - no, duh! I don't believe they are there to find someone, either. In fact, I don't know if they're even "there" at all. They may just be ringers included by the site managers to keep the guys interested. It's really tragic that some men wrongly conclude they could never succeed at dating just because they can't match the perfection of these Photoshopped babes.