I recommend that you read works by and for autistic women.
Women and Girls with Autism Spectrum Disorder, Sarah Hendrickx
Women From Another Planet, Jean Kearns Miller
Spectrum Women, ed. Barb Cook and Dr. Michelle Garnett
Nerdy, Shy and Socially Inappropriate, Cynthia Kim
Also:
Read Samantha Craft's "Females and Aspergers: A Checklist" on The Art of Autism website (internet article)
Watch the series "Ask an Autistic" with Amythest Schaber, on YouTube
I don't think that reading books by Tony Attwood will help most women, since we present differently than men.
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