Are autists less attractive?

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It seems to me that many autists look quite unattractive. Is there a correlation between autism, and unattractiveness? Especially obesity seems to be widespread among autists. Maybe because many autists are shut ins who do not go outside much? Many autists seem to have an aversion to sports. But maybe im wrong. What do you think, are autists less attractive, and more likely to be obese due to a lack of going outside and overeating?

The only woman I've ever loved was (still is) almost certainly autistic. If there were ever any "runners up", they all at least had some autistic features. It's banal conformism that's unattractive.

I'm done.

Autistic people are not necessarily unattractive. Some are, some are not. So what?

Generally speaking, autistics are socially unattractive due to our social clumsiness...

Physically?
Autistics generally aren't that concerned about appearances...
We tend not to be fashion victims who need to impress others...

Some of us do care about our looks, and some might get a little offended at this thread. Also I've seen threads here saying about autistic people being attractive. This one is one of many:-

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It's a silly question, was my point.

Agreed.

Different people find different things unattractive

I'm allowed to say "very much so", because I have AS myself. Also because I used to be hideously ugly. No girl would touch me with a 100-foot pole. It took me until age 20 to get my first kiss, and it was at a fart party, in a dark room with loud music, where everybody was really drunk. And I had to pay an escort to take my virginity. At one point when I was 21, I even went in for a plastic surgery consultation, but didn't get it done, due to the high cost and long recovery time. For much of my 20's, women would reject me, cancel dates on me, and basically treat me like total genetic garbage. The few women I've been with, it was usually someone I wasn't attracted to, and only dated her because she liked me.

However, what happened over time is that I aged into my looks. My face took on a less childlike, more aged look, and I actually started to look pretty good. Perhaps my face hadn't changed much, but what looked ugly at age 21 looked handsome at age 31. I started to look better by 27, which is when an occasional attractive girl started returning my interest. But I don't think I fully aged into my looks until 29, when women started flirting with me on their own accord. For the first time in my life, I had the luxury to reject women I wasn't attracted to myself. For a few years, I had the best of both worlds: I aged into my looks and started to look attractive to women, but I was still young enough to enjoy the last blast of my party years.

Today, that's no longer the case. I'm now middle-aged, if not an old fart. But I still have decent looks, so meh.

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What was the question?

I was distracted watching this autistic girl (and sometimes professional model) .




another autistic who is both interesting to listen to, and interesting to look at.

Dunno about you blokes, but I'm drop dead gorgeous.

Me too.

When I lost a lot of weight in my early 20s I was considered attractive physically, but socially I was totally inept...
A significant other relationship was never in my cards and I am pretty happy these days nothing developed...

Life is an abomination and I am so happy I wasn't responsible for bringing children into this pointless life system...
The stress of looking after a child and a spouse is something I don't wish on any autistic individual...
I am comfortably in early retirement, financially independent and luvin' it...
The best years in my life now...

Best wishes, pepe. You're one of the good 'uns.

Only because what is considered attractive is fake and we don't feel comfortable physically doing a lot of it. Drop everyone off on a desert island somewhere and we'd be considered good looking.

Women without makeup and men with neckbeards are looked at as 'unattractive' in our society. Let alone people who struggle to have regular baths etc (and the stress really is put onto 'showers' which can be hard because of sensory issues. Look, if you bathe regularly you're as hygienic as anyone else so don't worry about it). Our society is very superficial about this stuff and autistic people struggle to keep up with it.

Doesn't mean we're objectively unattractive, just that we fail to match up to societal expectations. This sort of objectification is bad. It's better that someone is comfortable than that they 'look hot'. People pretend they like natural beauty but what they mean is a certain classic look which is groomed (and in women even made up) but not so far that they feel guilty about it or that the other party is hiding something.