AprilR wrote:
Trying to focus on other people and not myself made wonders for me. I try to be useful and kind to people and to be a positive presence in their lives. It helps me a lot.
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You're right. If I think about it, the times when I don't hate myself are the times when I feel I've made someone else happy, even a little. But it usually only lasts a few seconds. I still have a long way to go.
Twilightprincess wrote:
I’ve struggled with guilt ever since I was a young child, and it’s over stuff that I know I shouldn’t feel guilty for, but it doesn’t make it go away. It’s a very unpleasant emotion.
Same here. I feel like it's one of the most damaging emotions we pick up in childhood; often because we want to regain control when we feel out of control. Have you heard that theory? That a child would rather blame him/herself and take on the guilt than feel helpless and at the mercy of the big, bad world.
Magna wrote:
I did for many years. Probably most of my life. Now it's more oscillating between neutral and liking myself. That's progress.
That is good to hear : )
Alterity wrote:
I feel trapped a lot, eternally sitting on a fence unable to go either direction to get off.
Damn, that's a good metaphor. I also really like the quote in your signature - "Inside the heart of each and every one of us there is a longing to be understood by someone who really cares. When a person is understood, he or she can put up with almost anything in the world." So true.
Joe90 wrote:
I hitted myself to punish my brain for being wired that way. I didn't want to take it out on innocent objects, animals or people.
Me too. I also used to do it in an irrational attempt to make myself disappear.
Edna3362 wrote:
Right now I see a sickening mess to clean over and over, and it doesn't stay that way even if nothing was touching it.
well put

shortfatbaldman wrote:
Maybe

most people

love themselves way too much
I think it only seems like that from the outside. That's why they say narcissists have the most fragile egos - they act like they love themselves so much, but they actually don't; they're just terrified of admitting it to themselves.
sly279 wrote:
Yes. I hate being defective and unlovable, wish I was nt
You're not unlovable! Especially not because of your ASD!
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