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GeordieGent
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29 May 2019, 5:10 pm

I always feel it’s a waste of time. Maybe I expect too much and expect people to explain to me the world works but it seems there’s very little a counsellor can do to help autism.



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29 May 2019, 5:11 pm

I went to two session. She told me to join a book club.

I stopped after that.


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29 May 2019, 5:14 pm

In terms of relativity, yes and no. I've had both good and bad experiences with therapists in the past with the most recent therapist I stopped seeing last summer because he got too overbearing, so I stopped seeing him cold turkey.

However, I began seeing a new counselor at the beginning of this month and it's been great so far.


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29 May 2019, 5:23 pm

I see a therapist once per week, started 1 month ago. It is going great so far, this therapist got 4 degrees and knows a lot, so she is more a useful source of knowledge to me in addition to being supportive emotionally.

It is going well, i have improved.
And she is creating a personal assesment of my personality/attitude which I will use to better determine my future goals without having to worry about my limits.

So yes, it works indeed.

As an autistic guy look for a female therapist, Will also help to improve self-esteem and your relationships with the opposite sex.



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29 May 2019, 5:52 pm

Counseling is always "helpful" :evil: to the counselor :evil: because the counselor gets $$$$$$$



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Seriously the best counselor, "helped" me about one dollar. The insurance paid her 75 hour. She told me.


A psychologist had the nerve to tell me that he wanted to physically injure the president

He was trying to make me say "yeah I want to too"

5150 :roll:


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29 May 2019, 6:43 pm

I detailed my experience w/therapy earlier today on the first page of this thread: viewtopic.php?t=376716



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29 May 2019, 8:01 pm

BaronHarkonnen85 wrote:
I went to two session. She told me to join a book club.

I stopped after that.



The suicide hotline operator told me likewise



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31 May 2019, 8:55 am

My counsellor had studied enough to put a label on my attachment disorder, but her main healing power is that of a concerned parent. Preparing for monthly visits kept me interested in making progress. I still had to do my own diagnosis, but it was nice to have someone to discuss it with.
In Canada, the health plan only covers suicide prevention. The caring staff have been responsible for getting people to feel better than folk merely resisting the rope, but they are being weeded out by the administration in favour of pill pushers.



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31 May 2019, 7:05 pm

I think that one of the difficulties I see is that unless the counsellor is on the spectrum themselves, you are going to be more of an expert in the field of understanding the co dition then they are, so I can't see how someone can advise in this respect. They can certainly act as a general counsellor but for things speciffically related to the spectrum it maybe difficult to advise. Like how would they help you to cope with sociallizing if you are going through a stage where you really need a break from people to de-stress? A counsellors maybe thinking along the lines of "This person is not used to socializing so needs to meet more people".



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31 May 2019, 7:21 pm

I think it really depends on why you want/need counseling. Its probably not going to help with autism directly, but you might find help with related issues like anxiety, depression, etc.



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31 May 2019, 7:58 pm

"actions speak louder than words"

"Loose lips sink ships"

Counseling, in theory, could "help"

Counseling could also hurt, or neither

Went to 35 counselors

Some appeared to "help". Some appeared to "hurt"

The ones that "helped", did not "help" enough to justify their salary

Sometimes it is just the process of talking to someone

Anyone nice

No masters degree necessary or sufficient

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But some of the counselors acted like they dragged my worthless corpse out of a burning building

Ass holes

f**k Jeanne Courtney



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31 May 2019, 8:08 pm

I've found it very helpful- mine specializes in autism and developmental disorders and is ND herself.


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31 May 2019, 8:30 pm

It’s been good for me. I don’t open up to anyone else offline, though, so I might benefit more from being able to talk to someone than most people.


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31 May 2019, 8:35 pm

The vast majority of the counselors that I have gone to, were

Way too dramatic. Every slightest thing,. "Important", "felt bad", "got mad", "distress", "unfortunate", "traumatic"

Sympathetic sighing sounds and noises

They act like I can't handle the slightest thing

They act like they expect everything to be perfect at all times

Wierd and vague statements. Misleading


"You are ok the way you are. People should not hurt your feelings"

You are just ok the way you are, at that time, to that person

You are not ok the way you are for 35 years

Anything could "hurt" anyone's feelings

Doesn't mean someone violated their stupidass "rights"

Everything helps, neither or hurts

Not all "hurt" is a Mandated Reporter violation

Not all "help" is a Purple Heart Award


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31 May 2019, 9:46 pm

I find that it helps me. It's nice to talk to someo ne who can help me feel like I am being listened to. I have Autism and a Mental Illness. I hardly feel calm. I also dont talk a lot. It feels nice to talk sometimes



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31 May 2019, 9:56 pm

Blank b/c can't delete this.



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