My dad Grounded me for the whole summer

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I'm a boy of 14, my names Liam and i need to talk and maybe get advice. i only recently got diagnosed as having Aspergers about 1 month ago and we already thought i had it anyway and i had loads of assessments and stuff. Because my behaviour can be really bad sometimes and i cause a lot of problems and recently i was rude to a teacher at school, plus i was truanting a lot and doing badly in class and getting in late and getting too many detentions, my dad said i needed to be punished so he decided to ground me for 3 months....June/July/August... so that i remain grounded all summer and only come off it in September. I am trying to beg him to reduce it to a month or something, i can't believe he is grounding me for the entire summer! Ok i know i deserve to be punished but also i have a bad time in school. i struggle and i do not like it, my aspergers makes it harder. I tried to tell him this and he was angry and told me to stop arguing with him. Really i guess there is not much i can do or say now as he has made up his mind but i am very upset that my punishment is so harsh. Should i try to talk to him more about it? i don't want to make him more angry but i feel its unfair when he won't even listen to my side of it and my reasons for being bad in school

i also hate having Aspergers, its not a lot of fun and i find it hard in school! Anyway i'm new here this was my first post and hello everyone i hope to make new friends here

Hello!

A lot of it is most likely about your father, not you. He seems to take badly any thougths undermining his decisions. Matter of pride, maybe.
Can you talk to anyone who knows him and has any more chance of listening to you? You would probably benefit from some ally - I don't know, mother, granny, a neighbour, a siblling? Can you get some therapist involved, on the exceuse of your recent diagnosis?

Diplomatic skills are extremely rare among people with ASD and most likely they would be invaluable in contacts with your father. You need to find someone to help you or/and learn some.

They may believe they're doing the best thing but in reality what they do is just cruel.
You may try to use your recent diagnosis to get into contact with some specialists in psychology. With some luck, they may try to instruct your parents on more efficient upbringing methods than cruel punishments.

Maybe suggest an alternative. Usually, when I do something bad, I work with my parents to make sure what happened doesn't happen again. Otherwise, they just restrict something I really enjoy, typically computer privileges.

I haven't been officially grounded for a year and a half, but I still remember how much it sucked.