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synchromystic
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17 Aug 2019, 1:45 pm

I notice there is a women's discussion forum on this site, but there isn't one for men. Why is that? How does that make people feel? It seems skewed to me, I prefer for things to be even.

As an aside, I find the caption for the women's forum kind of patronising, but that might just be me. :lol:

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This is a place where women can feel safe to be themselves. "Having a male gynecologist is like going to an auto mechanic who doesn't own a car."



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17 Aug 2019, 2:13 pm

I can't see a caption.

Anyway, this sort of thing doesn't offend me; I'm all for special treatment for women. Frankly, I'd like to see women-only train carriages and the like return.



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17 Aug 2019, 2:15 pm

I find that quote patronising too, and it's part of why I avoid the women's forum.

Do all oncologists need to have cancer? Do all psychiatrists need to have mental illness?

I happen to have a male Gynaecologist, and he's incredible.

Incidentally, I think I have seen a men's forum somewhere lately?


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17 Aug 2019, 2:50 pm

There used to be a men's forum (before I was even a user here) but Alex got rid of it because it ended up being almost exclusively used for smut.



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17 Aug 2019, 4:10 pm

At my workplace there is a women's group that gets together one day a month. The men get together in the workplace all days. (male-dominated workplace)

Given most diagnosed ASD/Aspie/Autism are men, I would expect more men here and that while one board is mostly women, another non-binary, all other boards would be mostly men - so that would be a type of balance. That said, it seems to me there are a disproportionate number of posts from women on WP. I haven't been here long enough to know.



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17 Aug 2019, 7:34 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I find that quote patronising too, and it's part of why I avoid the women's forum.

Do all oncologists need to have cancer? Do all psychiatrists need to have mental illness?

I happen to have a male Gynaecologist, and he's incredible.

Incidentally, I think I have seen a men's forum somewhere lately?


There’s a “sticky” discussion thread for men at the top of the Random Discussion sub forum.



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17 Aug 2019, 7:37 pm

I think it's a good thing that there is not a mens section.

When we seperate it only breeds extremestismist thoughts.

men and woman were made to be together, it brings out the best in both the sexes when we mix.



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18 Aug 2019, 4:32 pm

BDavro wrote:
I think it's a good thing that there is not a mens section.

When we seperate it only breeds extremestismist thoughts.

men and woman were made to be together, it brings out the best in both the sexes when we mix.

So is it also bad we have a women’s section?


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18 Aug 2019, 9:08 pm

synchromystic wrote:
As an aside, I find the caption for the women's forum kind of patronising, but that might just be me. :lol:

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This is a place where women can feel safe to be themselves. "Having a male gynecologist is like going to an auto mechanic who doesn't own a car."

To be fair, I find most of the captions to be a bit patronising, and the male gynecologist thing is pretty weird and random imo



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18 Aug 2019, 11:30 pm

I'm a male feminist & I strongly supported having a Men's section YEARS ago cuz I believe that the genders can not be equal as long as one gender gets special treatment/privileges ie having a Women's section but no Men's. I know that the Men's section which was before I joined had problems but I think they could of been dealt with by the section having better moderation. The L&D section has lots of problems with the men & women bickering with each other but the mods deal with things instead of Alex deciding to do away with the section cuz it's having problems so I fail to understand why the same isn't true of the Men's. I still support having a Men's section but I'm no longer a strong advocate for it cuz it hasn't came back yet & I've been here like 10 years so I'm not expecting it to come back again anytime soon.


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Given most diagnosed ASD/Aspie/Autism are men, I would expect more men here and that while one board is mostly women, another non-binary, all other boards would be mostly men - so that would be a type of balance. That said, it seems to me there are a disproportionate number of posts from women on WP. I haven't been here long enough to know.
While lots of members here are on the spectrum or suspect they are, there's also lots of members here who are not. Some members have various relationships with autistic people like romantic partner, parent, friend, ect. There's also some members here who want to learn about &/or research Aspergers cuz they want to or currently do work with people on the spectrum. I suspect that more of the women here are romantic partners, parents, & maybe friends of autistics than the guys who post here are. It also wouldn't surprise me if more of the women who post here work with autistics than the guys who post here do. I guess what I'm trying to explain is that I think more guys are on the spectrum here while more women are NT.


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19 Aug 2019, 5:49 am

There are plenty of autistic women here—perhaps a nearly equal to equal amount to the amount of male autistic folks.



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19 Aug 2019, 3:39 pm

I think it's because there is less information on autism in women, and autism in women often appear differently than in men. So that might be why there's a subforum specifically for women to share their experiences with autism with each other.


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21 Aug 2019, 9:24 am

Given the high male-to-female ratio among autistic people, the presence of a forum devoted to women's issues probably helps many autistic women feel more comfortable on Wrong Planet as a whole, which in turn is probably one of the reasons (though not the only reason) why WP has a close-to-even male-to-female ratio, which IMO is desirable for everyone here.


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31 Aug 2019, 6:06 pm

I believe the founders in mind for this forum, started out as an innocent project, and took into account as many sub-forum topics as possible. Speaking of related terms of topical choice, women are known as the predominant talkers of the spectrum and to the this day, I've not known a single male on topic forums or otherwise who share the same feelings or views as women on anything. That's why a mature sub-forum for women I believe, was created.
As well as all this, women tend to share their opinions and feelings more openly than men do, and should feel made to be safe from the online backlash attacks of male stalkers and single open minded pettiness. It states in the title,'' A safe place for women to be themselves.'' I'm sure that is open to conjecture, hence, why people disappear off to places like ''The Haven ''or the 'In-Depth Adult Discussion,'' where the only things being discussed are the bouts of depressives and people trying to hide from others to gain in depth knowledge of events and discussions and places they've missed out on. The ones who are afraid to brush their teeth or have lost a few false ones are the ones posting here I should think. To avoid an open yet casual debate which then places this at the forefront of the Women's, the reality here is being pushed aside by squabblers and misfits, looking to ascertain their male goals in the form of a pregnant man.
Having disposed of the giggling desire to throw a male wobbly, these so called men then laugh it off elsewhere.
Pure and simple, the reign supreme dynasty is an open just cause for like minded wobbliness and stereotypical imagery that presents itself in bright crude fashion usually from the opposite sex, so that the place can never seem fully justified and trusted to be used only by women. I find that crass indignitaries and disagreements are rarely found amongst women of a higher respected stake on life, so you know exactly if you are speaking to one, or just another male voided counterpart or forum allied dignitary whose only goal is to claw back tittle ranks.
If whomever created it could come back to clarify the suggestion, I'm sure women from all over the spectrum would be reassured and glad to hear it.



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01 Sep 2019, 1:32 am

they had a mens forum at one time but very few people used it from what I have heard the ones that did posted lewed photos and things


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01 Sep 2019, 3:11 am

I feel we should stop making everything about gender.