Mona Pereth wrote:
Magna wrote:
I suspect ADHD but haven't been formerly diagnosed. Passing for NT depends on the length of time I'm interacting with someone. I can pass for NT in short routine service related interactions such as the bank, grocery store, etc. I can also pass when exchanging brief pleasantries with a person.
At the bank or grocery store, no one cares, you're just a customer. Also, most people are polite enough to exchange brief pleasantries even if you seem a little weird (as long you don't outright scare them). It's hard to tell if you're really passing for NT in these contexts, where it doesn't really even matter in the first place.
Magna wrote:
Anything longer and where more communication is involved, the lack of eye contact becomes a factor and I think I start to give off 'the vibe'....
And "Anything longer and where more communication is involved" is where the difference actually matters.
I agree with everything you've said.
I like the idea of this thread, but it's also under the premise the most NTs are actually judging people to be either NT or ND; people don't think in those terms. If we could equally ask: "Can you pass for 'normal' or do people find you odd?" I think it would be more accurate in a practical sense?
And, answering that question personally, I would say that other than brief service related exchanges in which on one cares, I can not pass for 'normal' or at the very least people find me odd to some degree. I was always told I was odd/quirky and friends I had when I was young were tolerant of it or actually found it appealing. However, as an adult it's probably the main reason that I have no close friends other than my wife (which I'm fine with for the most part).