Realizing that I am /still/ the creepy girl

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I know I had social skills problems growing up. Everyone says I'm over them now. Except I'm not.

I spend most of the day in my own head and sometimes react to my daydreams as though they were irl. I've been spacing out smiling to myself before, then realized guys thought I was checking them out when I wasn't. I've simply spaced out looking at people before and people would call me creepy.

I went to a religious monastery retreat a few days ago and was the only girl there. A lot of the guys acted like I was hitting on them when I wasn't. Sometimes I would look them in the eye, then glance downwards or something, and it was mostly involuntary, but I think they thought I was checking them out. I wish people would just tell me how I come across, but I don't think that's possible.

I did try to flirt with a guy in my class a few times. I'd intentionally check him out, he'd look at me, I'd look away. Now I realize this is considered "creepy girl" behavior.

I don't think a lot of the glancing up and down is sexual because I'm straight and I do it to women too, and men I'm not attracted to. It's just how I look at people. I want to stop but it's automatic and I'm not sure where to look.

It's hard to get up right now because I'm so tired and anxious. I have to go to classes where people make fun of me for being creepy because I never know where to look.

As I child I was "strange" and "weird" etc, I wonder that now middle-aged that I am "eccentric"? I wonder that you are quieter than I am. I am in everyone's faces, so not "creeping" very much. I am loud and tend to stare and share. My AS-like BFF is quiet, I bet she is "creepy" to folks. I've heard looking between someone's eyes is useful, or the mouth. And, yes, in my late 40s I still am "weird" and will be more so as I unmask. Yesterday, I caught myself during a meeting and said "Ah, I have repeated myself three times now [very quickly], so that's probably sufficient." I have folks at work who "translate" for me. Sigh.

I bet you are not actually creepy.....that it’s all in your head.

I bet you are actually a nice, young college woman.

I am a 19 year old female who does this as well. You are not alone. It has improved with time as I became more self aware and started focusing on staring at other things in the room, like the back of people's heads, or my notebook when I doodle or take notes, or the board, or my professor. But it's not easy. I just happen to look at people all the time.. without meaning to. And I wish I could apologize to them for the misunderstanding, and I wish they would confront me about it because perhaps it would sort my head out, but I can only keep dreaming. And keep trying. It's always the same people too sometimes for me, hah.

Anyway, as for being a creepy girl, I wouldn't label myself as such (not that I'm fond of labels anyway). I'm not doing it intentionally, nor does it appear that you are. I have a therapist who says I have improved too, but I don't feel it. If I have, I wish I could prove it to myself. But just know that someone is kin to you right now.

I too sometime am zoning out looking and not realise I'm looking at someone and hope they not think I looking at them in provocative way
Embarrass me inside sometime and feel bit like they might think I creepy

Agh. It's happened again. I have anxiety that I'm accidentally checking people out without knowing it, and today in class I would glance at my professor, look down and look up again. I hope that no one thinks I'm checking the professor out.

It doesn't help that if I am attracted to someone, I sometimes smile a little involuntarily. I don't mean to flirt.