I Hate College

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I have absolutely no time on my hands anymore.

There are plenty of minority groups I happen to fall into besides just being autistic, some I am obligated to fall into, and others I literally have no control over. For one thing, I am gay, but no guys around me are actually attractive to me. For that reason, I am constantly distracted at the thought of the kind of guy I wish I could be with. I didn't even like the guy I used in order to get a first kiss out of, I just had to get it over with. I have 'Pure-O' OCD, it is actually diagnosed, as well as Major Depressive Disorder. My Mom is physically disabled, so I have to take care of her when I am not just barely managing to take care of myself.

I can't get employed part-time, and when I proved that to my dad, he told me to be a student full-time. He pays for my living expenses, so I'm obligated to do that. I am probably going to fail one of my current classes even though I tried my hardest to pass all of them, and it's simply because I find it hard just to take care of myself as well as my Mother, before putting constant studying in the equation.

What class might you fail?

Is there a way you could get extra credit or something so you can get at least a C?

Online college

Tutoring

Take fewer units

Change majors

On Course and Processor Evaluation, look up the easiest instructor

See if your mom's insurance pays for home health aide

Leave of absence from school

Disclose diagnosis to school. Reasonable accommodation

Study group

Khan academy

Support group

It seems like your college experience has been isolating, which is really tough. Stop in your school's office of student life (sometimes also called student activities); they can give you a list of student support groups. These groups are peers that relate to your situation, plus they will have a faculty advisor who may or may not attend meetings. (Usually not so much, which many students actually appreciate.) Some of the support groups at the college where I work include LGBTQ+, single mothers, international students, and people with disabilities. I once attended the latter as a visitor, and I was the only person without a physical disability present. If there is no support group that suits your needs, I guarantee your office of student life would be thrilled if you proposed a new support group. However, be aware that you may be subsequently asked to lead said group. I know that's a lot to take on when you've got major depression and a bunch of stress. But, it might actually be a great way to find your people at the college, on the other hand. Also, the office of student life will probably help you every step of the way with paperwork, funding, and all kinds of word-spreading to get the ball rolling. Just my two cents. I work with students like you every day, and I never stop worrying about them. People seem to think college is all fun and games, but the students are incredibly stressed out.

That's a great plan (to join an existing group). Maybe check out a few, even. There should be plenty of interesting ones to choose from. You'll find one that's right for you, and the connections you make will help you find even more resources and forge peer support.

College for me was just debt and regret. I knew when I finished my degree I had no hope of gaining a job and thousands of applicants and not a single interview and not even a rejection letter. No feedback, only silence.

What is a leave of absence?

Most of the time, you cannot take a leave of absence of more than a year or two semesters.