Quick question: are we ultra humble, modest, or unconfident?

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I noticed this for a long time in alot Autistics both high and low functioning.
when given a compliment they shrug it off like its not an achievement or
a good thing. they act as if it was luck rather than from hard work and skill.
there are other things I notice to back this up theory. any hoot ? thoughts ?

All the above..

Some precious lil "people" confidence not proportional to competence

The answer is 'No'.

Because all humans are guilty.

Even to the littlest of degree, somewhere in everyone's heads, there is a built-in tiny voice that thinks it's the real 'you', credits itself for what 'you' do, cheering or booing based on whatever standards it picks up over 'you'.

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It depends.

I definitely do that: praise is weird, I don’t really know what to do with it.

Think what culture you live in, and the psychological whatsit of the other human(s) involved in the interaction, are both factors in how that tendency comes across to others though: some cultures value self-effacement, others view it as a weakness, and I’ve even known a couple of people who took it as an implied insult from me to them.

okay this is bravely worded& possibly bigot against N.T.s opinion, sorry in advance . When you proceed in a otherwise than what is a logically based manner , and you do not see the other possibilities and you do something that is original or different . and do iit successfully , it is easy and correct behaviour to approach or do something that seems like the pragmatic method to address a issue ? You might expect just anyone to be able to do , what you have achieved ?
Then a compliment might not seem approprate to you , for just what anyone should have been able to do . So compliment might be unexpected ? Oppositionally thought: just not used to getting compliments when you are normally expecting ridicule depending on your or anyones upbringing.

i just learned to say thank you, with a forced smile, in the odd occasion when something like this happens to me.

^ You’re too kind can work as well.

^^^but in my reality, there can really be no such thing as "too kind" which is like saying "too nice" or "too good" or a lotta other goods. but i guess that is besides the point. i hafta force a smile because i am afflicted with something euphemistically called RBF.

I can only speak for myself, but I know that I am very humble, modest, and unconfident.

am seeing that , being humble is a nice virtuous value , self effacing maybe seen as virtuous.
but when you might do something , that might be hard for others , but it was not for you .
Then it might feel that the compliment to you , might be uncalled for . And might not be in keeping with a humble persons values .