What NT Women Want

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This is to help autistic men understand NT women. I’m going to be brutal and honest as possible because NT women are brutal when it comes to dating. Bookmark this page. I promise that if you do all of these steps, you will get at least one woman interested in you as a boyfriend or husband.

Women mostly want a guy with a stable job with good (or okay) social skills, and don’t care so much about looks, unless they are young or immature.This is what I look for in a boyfriend and what many of my NT friends also look for for a long term relationship. You don’t have to have abs, women don’t care and some even prefer “dad bods”. Some women don’t mind bad social skills as long as you truly care about the woman and are working on it.

Groom yourself. You don’t have to look like a male model or have abs. As long as you shave your face (shaving off any neckbeards) shower everyday or every other day, and look clean, women will notice & appreciate it. Smelling good also helps, so wearing cologne or deodorant (if you can, I know that it can be sensitive).

Dress well. Make sure that your clothes doesn’t have any stains. Make sure that you wash your clothes at least once a month. Ironing would also help but is optional. Good haircut also helps.

If you have your sh*t together, stable job, own place, and maybe a car, that is enough. If you don’t have any of these, work on it. If you don’t smoke & aren’t an alcoholic, that’s a bonus, because many men either smoke or drink a lot and you’ll be a step ahead of them.

I would highly highly recommend online dating or having an NT friend set you up with someone instead of approaching in person, because most of the time it is creepy and unwanted (woman could already have a boyfriend or not find you attractive).

Women look for someone that isn’t creepy, isn’t potentially dangerous and that will protect them & look out after them. This means waiting for sex & getting to know them, unless they tell you. So, if they sense that you only want sex from them, they’ll run & maybe even avoid you or tell their friends you’re creepy because this is creepy behavior.

Have woman friends. If you’re friends with other women (maybe even women that rejected you), women will think that you aren’t creepy or dangerous because other women don’t think that you are creepy & are willing to be friends with you.

Women LOVE a man with his own life, hobby, and passion. Women love men on a mission to reach some goal of theirs. Women love that you can live without needing them in your life. NT women can sense desperation and neediness really really easily and it comes off as creepy.

If some NT woman that you like thinks you’re weird or nerdy, even though you’ve followed all of these steps, then you’re incompatible. Try & find someone with compatible interests.

I’m also going to suggest that you don’t give women flowers or presents unless it’s Valentine’s Day, Christmas, or her birthday because this also could come off as creepy or desperate.

I will try and post more tips later such as flirting, hints, & body language.

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I highly recommend reading this! This is very very accurate.

i'm male

online dating is a s**tshow, they're all sausage fests. i don't have female friends and i only have one male friend here who is as lonely as i am. we just moved here and don't know anyone....it's a small town, dunno if that helps or hurts.

why is the job important?

^Security and status?

Hi Tiana, you are great. May be that you can help even a bit more.
Once you have Aspergers then you don't get others emotionally. You don't have a feeling for what they like or dislike and for this it's hard to get in touch especially as a loner who isn't great at talking.
I know that many NT women like to be manipulative. But they rely on others having the empathy for getting them emotionally. They don't really understand if guys are incapable of that. That's a part of the problem.
The thinking of hierarchies is another thing. I don't really get this. Can you (or anyone else) explain a bit what's up with it?

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Having a steady job shows that you have the ability to compromise. Very few women want a one sided relationship unless the guy is rich enough to be a "sugar daddy."

Yes what Tiana said is true for a good NT girl looking for a good guy they will want him to have a stable job and not embarrass them when they take them to meet and greet ect.
Unfortunately these girls are a somewhat rare and get snatched up quickly

That being said there are some girls who are into the bad boy they like being the bread winner, and don't care if the bad boy has a stable job or one at all

You also have some girls who are controling, manipulative, and materialistic. They control how much money the guy spends on himself even to the point they want to control the guys finances/ bank account so there is more money available for lady.

The key thing is figuring out which of these categories the girl falls into.

Note to guys: we don't have to put up with sexist clickbait going in the other direction.

I mean we can all base our decisions on nonsensical stereotypes or just talk enough to know each other.

I for one don't appreciate women generalizing anyone, let alone guys with ASD. As Boo said, it's not like we didn't know this, it's that we get looked down on for bringing it to light.

We're talking about misconceptions & discrimination; in truth it's blameless but the problem is still on people with ASD.

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I think Tiana means well in her post I seen no intent to be mean or bully anyone maybe a little constructive criticism.