I suck at socializing

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At the soup kitchens I go to most of the time I sit with the oldest people there. Didn't mind it at first. Thought I was just doing something nice. But these old guys are a bit pushy. Tonight one of them demanded to know why I Hadn't visited him yet after he gave me his number and address. The other old guy once got mad and demanded to know why I wouldnt bathe him. He also was being an old perve when I was a bit drunk and talking to him on the phone once. Won't say what he said. It was gross. There is countless examples I could give of them over stepping my boundaries. Anyway the point is I feel as though I'm being taken advantage of now, and don't get why these old guys just can't get with a grandma and leave me alone. I guess thats what I get for sitting with them all the time. You give an inch they take a mile. I also think because Im autistic, I was taking the easy way out, by not sitting with younger people. Because I don't feel like there's much social pressure from a person in their 80s. I suck at making conversation. I become awkward around men if I think there's a chance they could be into me even in the slightest little bit. I hope they haven't noticed. I'm scared to sit with the men closer to my age because I'm scared that I will be awkward. What if my face turns red the whole time I talk to them....maybe I should just start off by sitting with women. I wish I wasn't so wierd.

I prefer to socialize with old people too. I don't have much in common with people my age. I'm sorry you had to go through something like this, some people really can't take a kindness as what it is. But i don't think it was wrong of you to sit with them, THEY should have known to behave. Maybe you can try sitting with elderly women next time.

I'd advice you to not socialize with those particular older men, or any other men that make sexual suggestions and/or talk and don't stop even after you've said no once.

Oh this sounds familiar. I felt always a bit awkward with boys around my age or younger, especially if I liked them at least a tiny bit. Total muteness and red face
About the older men: unfortunately I had also this experience as a child. Please for your own sake stop talking or visiting men, who you are not interested in but they are into you.