Feeling forced into girls night out

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So I am friends with some nice ladies in my apartment complex who enjoy socializing. They know I’m a little introverted, I’ve told them I have ADHD, but I don’t know if they realize I’m autistic.

They are having a girls night out and I’ve tried to politely decline by explaining that I don’t like yacht music, but my friend just kind of brushed that off. Truly, I despise yacht music, loud, crowded places, and being dependent on other people to escape the situation (there is a designated driver who is NOT me, and I know that is improperly written but I don’t want to sound stilted).

I spent 20 years married to a person who didn’t understand this, and I’ve been happily free of this kind of pressure since the divorce. I don’t know how to explain this in a way that would make sense to other people.

Am I the only person out there who hates this kind of “fun” evening unless I am drunk off my ass and passing out on the floor? (I don’t drink anymore because I haven’t needed the crutch).

I’m in recovery from alcoholism, so I can relate.

If you want to socialize with them, just not in that setting, why not have them come over for something low-key like a movie or game night?