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Jpunruh
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17 Mar 2020, 10:02 pm

I find it very comfortable with the social circle I have. But people are always pushing me to get out of my comfort zone to meet new people. Or to go out with the friends I have. I prefer to socialize with my friends at work and when I get home I just want to be at home.



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30 Mar 2020, 1:08 pm

Jpunruh wrote:
I find it very comfortable with the social circle I have. But people are always pushing me to get out of my comfort zone to meet new people. Or to go out with the friends I have. I prefer to socialize with my friends at work and when I get home I just want to be at home.


In my experience, most neurotypical people are congenitally incapable of minding their own business.


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30 Mar 2020, 1:17 pm

They might think that they are helping you by pushing you out of your comfort zone


They could be correct or wrong


That's the "why" that is in their favor



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05 Apr 2020, 8:17 am

Out of interest, who is pushing you to be more sociable. Your friends, or family members or other?



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11 Apr 2020, 8:56 pm

I dont get it either...people always want me to hang out with someone and I'm like I can pick my own friends...

One of my staff wants me to date a boy from my social skills group and always talks to me about it even though I said no I don't want to soooooooo many times....
Its very annoying....



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12 Apr 2020, 6:52 am

My family long since gave up on pushing me to make friends.

I have work colleagues and we know each other quite well but I maintain a firm boundary with this. Other that that there is my family and thats it. No friends and I don't yearn for them either.

When I was younger and still trying desperately to fit in a tried to cultivate a small circle of friends. What a pointless, exhausting waste if time. Now, I know better.

I have two acquaintances that I have known since primary school (so thats 55 years) - we meet up twice a year at most and thats enough for me.


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