Unwritten rule on overly protective parents

Post Reply New Topic

Hi:



I often ended up being friends with other people with disabilities and most of them seem to have parents who are protective. Though I do what I can to try and make a impression, a lot of these parents decide they hate me.

One minute I can do things with their adult children and the next, they won't let them get together with me by finding every excuse in the book.

Keep in mind I am more independent while most of my friends live with their parents.


What are some unwritten rules that I am missing? It's not like:

1. I am teaching their children to do drugs

2. Break into properties

3. I have asked them for favors or for money because their parents are loaded

Thou shalt not give other people's children ideas, nor shalt thou enable the children to think for themselves or to find disagreement with their parents.

In all seriousness, an independent aspie could be perceived by the parents as a threat to their authority and credibility in their children's minds.

I know, it makes no sense, but I experienced similar prejudice when parents of (non-dependent) adult children would learn that I played Dungeons & Dragons and didn't go to church.

As if I was going to teach them how to cast spells and worship the Devil (this was Michigan in the 1980s).

My parents were overprotective of me because:

1.) I almost died from a birth defect as an infant.

2.) My cousin died 8 years ago from a drug overdose

Love 'em while you still have 'em!

I wish I still had my parents.