Feeling very lonley.

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My two closest friends who are my only friends also diagnosed with aspergers live far from me.
One lives 9 hours away and the other 2 hours but he recently moved as far away as my other aspie friend to study for several years. Before he did that we could meet multiple times a year. I only have 1 friend in town and I dont feel I vibe well with him he is very nice but doesnt understand me. He likes to party and thinks its funny and unusual that I dont do stuff like that and prefer to be alone, he accepts it though which is nice but I cant talk to him about certain things I go through due to aspergers and anxiety and get the understanding I sometimes really need. I have to explain everything.
Right now I wish I could sit down with one of my 2 closest friends and just talk for a long time about stuff only they would understand. Texting is one thing, right now I feel I need someone here with me though and it's really frustrating.
I've never been able to find other aspies through facebook groups and such just because I happen to live in one of the most non social parts of the country.
Well I just needed to vent. It's difficult right now.

Well. It has taken me years and years and years and years and years to find anyone on this planet that understands what I was going through before I both found this site and also found out about autism and aspergers syndrome. I had heard of them before as in their names, but I did not really know what they were because when they come on the press, it is the worst cases that seem to get there.... So for years life felt lonely just because I could not find anyone anywhere who understood me other then my Mum, and only now she is beginning to understand. (I am certain she is on the spectrum or close to it if I am on the spectrum).

So yes, I can relate as there are things one needs to talk about, and does not know who would understand so one tends to keep things to oneself which is not great from a mental perspective.

One great difficulty of Aspergers is that though every person needs human contact, Aspies often are not able to communicate well in a face to face situation.
I can express myself pretty well when writing/texting, face to face, I am awkward and do not read others well.
WP is my social club.

Wrong planet does help the lonilyness a lot , but days it’s really helpful to have another human being to be in the presence of , when you like to vent . / need to vent . Somedays are just little harder than others .
Hang in there as best as you can .

I'm so happy I found this post. I was just about to post something similar. I understand that I don't have the natural inclinations as most people, but I feel like I'm capable of understanding and mimicking it. Yet, every single day, I find myself trying to express my thoughts only to be ignored, or completely taken the wrong way. I've also realized if I just don't express my inner thoughts, then I'm fine. But, I also don't understand how not being up front about your thoughts is so much a deterrent. I just walk through every day trying not to be weird or burn another relationship trying to do what people expect people to do. There's no winning scenario it seems.