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26 Oct 2020, 3:36 pm
An NT co-worker of mine yelled out something that upset someone else without meaning to today.
Because we don't have a proper car park (parking lot) at work, most of us have to park our cars in the yard at work. We have legal right to park there but people who don't work there have been known to park their cars there when they have no right. But not often and not lately. So anyway without thinking my co-worker yelled, "who's is that f*****g car parked in our yard?!" And a female co-worker got upset as she said that it was her's. He looked rather embarrassed and apologised, but she told him to think before he made assumptions like that, as it was nothing unusual that her car was parked there and it wasn't a new car or anything (she's taken me home in her car a few times, so I know what car it is). She didn't speak to him for the rest of the day. I could actually feel his awkwardness because I know that feeling where you blurt something out without thinking and accidentally offend someone else.
I suppose it's not what you say, it's the way you say it. But NTs do sometimes make mistakes too, like saying something before thinking first. 
30 Oct 2020, 1:47 am
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30 Oct 2020, 9:16 pm
Joe90 wrote:
Thank you for replying!
Yes I am 99% sure that my co-worker is NT. So let's just say he is, as most people are NT and I've been working with him for quite some time now.
But anyway, yes even NTs sometimes make social errors. He did seem pretty embarrassed after that.
Yes I am 99% sure that my co-worker is NT. So let's just say he is, as most people are NT and I've been working with him for quite some time now.
But anyway, yes even NTs sometimes make social errors. He did seem pretty embarrassed after that.
What do you mean by "even"?
You seem to be putting them on a pedestal.
30 Oct 2020, 9:24 pm
Joe90 wrote:
An NT co-worker of mine yelled out something that upset someone else without meaning to today.
Because we don't have a proper car park (parking lot) at work, most of us have to park our cars in the yard at work. We have legal right to park there but people who don't work there have been known to park their cars there when they have no right. But not often and not lately. So anyway without thinking my co-worker yelled, "who's is that f*****g car parked in our yard?!" And a female co-worker got upset as she said that it was her's. He looked rather embarrassed and apologised, but she told him to think before he made assumptions like that, as it was nothing unusual that her car was parked there and it wasn't a new car or anything (she's taken me home in her car a few times, so I know what car it is). She didn't speak to him for the rest of the day. I could actually feel his awkwardness because I know that feeling where you blurt something out without thinking and accidentally offend someone else.
I suppose it's not what you say, it's the way you say it. But NTs do sometimes make mistakes too, like saying something before thinking first.
Because we don't have a proper car park (parking lot) at work, most of us have to park our cars in the yard at work. We have legal right to park there but people who don't work there have been known to park their cars there when they have no right. But not often and not lately. So anyway without thinking my co-worker yelled, "who's is that f*****g car parked in our yard?!" And a female co-worker got upset as she said that it was her's. He looked rather embarrassed and apologised, but she told him to think before he made assumptions like that, as it was nothing unusual that her car was parked there and it wasn't a new car or anything (she's taken me home in her car a few times, so I know what car it is). She didn't speak to him for the rest of the day. I could actually feel his awkwardness because I know that feeling where you blurt something out without thinking and accidentally offend someone else.
I suppose it's not what you say, it's the way you say it. But NTs do sometimes make mistakes too, like saying something before thinking first.
This sounds like a rather innocuous innocent mistake? are you sure the female-coworker isn't a little sensitive? why would she have a grudge over something as simple as mistaking a car not from a co-worker??
30 Oct 2020, 9:58 pm
cyberdad wrote:
Joe90 wrote:
An NT co-worker of mine yelled out something that upset someone else without meaning to today.
Because we don't have a proper car park (parking lot) at work, most of us have to park our cars in the yard at work. We have legal right to park there but people who don't work there have been known to park their cars there when they have no right. But not often and not lately. So anyway without thinking my co-worker yelled, "who's is that f*****g car parked in our yard?!" And a female co-worker got upset as she said that it was her's. He looked rather embarrassed and apologised, but she told him to think before he made assumptions like that, as it was nothing unusual that her car was parked there and it wasn't a new car or anything (she's taken me home in her car a few times, so I know what car it is). She didn't speak to him for the rest of the day. I could actually feel his awkwardness because I know that feeling where you blurt something out without thinking and accidentally offend someone else.
I suppose it's not what you say, it's the way you say it. But NTs do sometimes make mistakes too, like saying something before thinking first.
Because we don't have a proper car park (parking lot) at work, most of us have to park our cars in the yard at work. We have legal right to park there but people who don't work there have been known to park their cars there when they have no right. But not often and not lately. So anyway without thinking my co-worker yelled, "who's is that f*****g car parked in our yard?!" And a female co-worker got upset as she said that it was her's. He looked rather embarrassed and apologised, but she told him to think before he made assumptions like that, as it was nothing unusual that her car was parked there and it wasn't a new car or anything (she's taken me home in her car a few times, so I know what car it is). She didn't speak to him for the rest of the day. I could actually feel his awkwardness because I know that feeling where you blurt something out without thinking and accidentally offend someone else.
I suppose it's not what you say, it's the way you say it. But NTs do sometimes make mistakes too, like saying something before thinking first.
This sounds like a rather innocuous innocent mistake? are you sure the female-coworker isn't a little sensitive? why would she have a grudge over something as simple as mistaking a car not from a co-worker??
Yup, it seems the female coworker is the one with the problem.
cyber, you are good for something, after all.
31 Oct 2020, 2:21 am
Pepe wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Joe90 wrote:
An NT co-worker of mine yelled out something that upset someone else without meaning to today.
Because we don't have a proper car park (parking lot) at work, most of us have to park our cars in the yard at work. We have legal right to park there but people who don't work there have been known to park their cars there when they have no right. But not often and not lately. So anyway without thinking my co-worker yelled, "who's is that f*****g car parked in our yard?!" And a female co-worker got upset as she said that it was her's. He looked rather embarrassed and apologised, but she told him to think before he made assumptions like that, as it was nothing unusual that her car was parked there and it wasn't a new car or anything (she's taken me home in her car a few times, so I know what car it is). She didn't speak to him for the rest of the day. I could actually feel his awkwardness because I know that feeling where you blurt something out without thinking and accidentally offend someone else.
I suppose it's not what you say, it's the way you say it. But NTs do sometimes make mistakes too, like saying something before thinking first.
Because we don't have a proper car park (parking lot) at work, most of us have to park our cars in the yard at work. We have legal right to park there but people who don't work there have been known to park their cars there when they have no right. But not often and not lately. So anyway without thinking my co-worker yelled, "who's is that f*****g car parked in our yard?!" And a female co-worker got upset as she said that it was her's. He looked rather embarrassed and apologised, but she told him to think before he made assumptions like that, as it was nothing unusual that her car was parked there and it wasn't a new car or anything (she's taken me home in her car a few times, so I know what car it is). She didn't speak to him for the rest of the day. I could actually feel his awkwardness because I know that feeling where you blurt something out without thinking and accidentally offend someone else.
I suppose it's not what you say, it's the way you say it. But NTs do sometimes make mistakes too, like saying something before thinking first.
This sounds like a rather innocuous innocent mistake? are you sure the female-coworker isn't a little sensitive? why would she have a grudge over something as simple as mistaking a car not from a co-worker??
Yup, it seems the female coworker is the one with the problem.
cyber, you are good for something, after all.
Perhaps she doesn't contribute enough at work social events ?
31 Oct 2020, 3:23 am
cyberdad wrote:
Joe90 wrote:
An NT co-worker of mine yelled out something that upset someone else without meaning to today.
Because we don't have a proper car park (parking lot) at work, most of us have to park our cars in the yard at work. We have legal right to park there but people who don't work there have been known to park their cars there when they have no right. But not often and not lately. So anyway without thinking my co-worker yelled, "who's is that f*****g car parked in our yard?!" And a female co-worker got upset as she said that it was her's. He looked rather embarrassed and apologised, but she told him to think before he made assumptions like that, as it was nothing unusual that her car was parked there and it wasn't a new car or anything (she's taken me home in her car a few times, so I know what car it is). She didn't speak to him for the rest of the day. I could actually feel his awkwardness because I know that feeling where you blurt something out without thinking and accidentally offend someone else.
I suppose it's not what you say, it's the way you say it. But NTs do sometimes make mistakes too, like saying something before thinking first.
Because we don't have a proper car park (parking lot) at work, most of us have to park our cars in the yard at work. We have legal right to park there but people who don't work there have been known to park their cars there when they have no right. But not often and not lately. So anyway without thinking my co-worker yelled, "who's is that f*****g car parked in our yard?!" And a female co-worker got upset as she said that it was her's. He looked rather embarrassed and apologised, but she told him to think before he made assumptions like that, as it was nothing unusual that her car was parked there and it wasn't a new car or anything (she's taken me home in her car a few times, so I know what car it is). She didn't speak to him for the rest of the day. I could actually feel his awkwardness because I know that feeling where you blurt something out without thinking and accidentally offend someone else.
I suppose it's not what you say, it's the way you say it. But NTs do sometimes make mistakes too, like saying something before thinking first.
This sounds like a rather innocuous innocent mistake? are you sure the female-coworker isn't a little sensitive? why would she have a grudge over something as simple as mistaking a car not from a co-worker??
It wasn't what he said, it was the way he said it.
If an Aspie said this exact thing in the same exact way then it will probably be considered "an Aspie moment".
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