Only Reasons People DM On Twitter In My Experience...

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It's so much better on here for DMs tbh. I have a few platonic friends on there including people I mean to get back to.

Only reasons I've noticed people DM on twitter are:
1 Inappropriate and unsolicited. (I've only had them from women so it happens from women as well as other genders but I do know that a lot of women/gay men get 'dick pics' sent which is even worse cos it's photos. What I'm talking about is unsolicited talk about one's privates and one's kinks)
2 Unsolicited spam to sell a product. This seems so silly to me and ineffective. Use the main part of the site for that.
3 Drama. Stirring crap up. "I don't like so and so do you", "so and so is a .... (long string of insults)"

I don't send DMs on there. I used to in order to be polite so I'd say for eg "oh" but now I just ignore it. If they do 1 or 3, I block them.

I wish there was a way to turn it off.

People don't use it like they use the main part of the site and that's really annoying. They use it for stuff they'd be embarrassed to have posted. It's like they forget that they're still DMing someone who's a stranger irl and who they haven't bothered to build a proper relationship with (ie a platonic friendship with) online, either.

I do not know what a DM is. Years ago someone had me start a twitter account but I soon deleted the account as more and more people kept following me. It made me feel scared and awkward. What is it when people follow you on that site? Is scary!

A DM is just their equivalent of a PM. You can set it so that you have to follow someone before they allow it. But I trust people I'm following to not try engaging me in drama or send unsolicited dirty messages. One girl went straight from talking politics to talking about her privates Totally different in the PM/DM section to how she presents in 'public'. So I don't allow them to follow me if they do that kind of thing.

Blocking means they're not allowed to see your messages.

Following means they see all your public activity.

If you don't set your account to private, you have no control over who follows you.

But you can control who you follow - whose stuff you see automatically.

And you can set it to private then look through their stuff before letting them follow you. That reduces spam as well. All sorts of nonsense betting companies, porn etc started following me at first (10 years ago) and I had to get rid of them through blocking. Not real people just spam.

People on WP are civilised in general. They know that just because you have got to know someone well enough to PM them, just because you want to share a story with them or not annoy the rest of us with a private conversation, they're still a stranger irl and it's not ok to send unsolicited sexy stuff or send 'I hate kt67 and mountain goat, what about you, do you hate mountain goat and kt67 too?' type messages. In fact, I think we'd get in trouble if we did the latter one on here.

I hate drama in general. I hate when people go behind people's backs to say nasty stuff.