How important is it for gay people to have children?

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OK, each person has 2 votes and can change them.

Pepe, are you sure you should be here?
Please don't stir up trouble.

From my observation - a gay NT man is more likely to sire children than an autistic hetero man.

And the desire to have children doesnt seem to correlate with the desire to have sex with the opposite sex.

Are you trying to stir up trouble, where there is none?

OK, explain to me why you think I am trying to cause trouble?
Why would I want to do that?
Why do you think I am that sort of person?

"Please explain."

I chose "I feel pressured by my family" and "something to think about". The pressure isn't constant but it's there. Mainly from my sister. When I was a teenager, we had a conversation where she told me that she doesn't want kids and that it would be up to me to provide grandkids. That it should be something for me to consider. I was not out at the time but she covered her bases by saying "with a nice man or woman, whatever floats your boat".

Still, it's a decision that I need to make and I don't know what the future is going to throw at me just yet. I haven't even had a relationship or finished University (although graduation is drawing closer- next summer ). Personally, in an ideal situation, I'd like to have a partner that I could raise an adopted child with (or maybe we'll just end up getting a dog or a cat...who knows what's going to happen? Am I going to be financially stable enough for that? Would I even make a good mother? Do I have a good reason to be a parent? Maybe I'll never be in a relationship; it's too early to know what direction everything is going in and I think I'd drive myself mad if I were to sit here and speculate on all the paths my life might go in. Or all the paths it won't.

Thank you for your contribution.

I chose the top two lines

I guess this pretty personal stuff. Though I guess when I was younger like 16 or so I wanted kids. My older half sister having children at the time.

I don't feel the need to have kids at the moment, maybe because I know it's not so reachable.

When I was younger perhaps I thought I was asexual or bi, and kids were still reachable or do I say attainable.

I haven't really considered surrogates etc, because of assumed cost. Adoption is another option.

Though feel these options better when I have another half. Which I don't at the moment.

I feel kids is something queer people should think about and discuss, as laws and what not are changing yearly around the world.