For the autistic adults that don't have a job, how do you no

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Like how do you not worry about going homeless, retirement, not worry about what happens when your parents die, and so on. Like short of doing drugs/drinking, I am open to trying things that might help.



I feel like I'm smart enough to know how messed over I am after trying so hard. But not smart enough to figure out how to ensure I have at least a stable happy life.

I don't think I have a pension. If my Mum dies I am homeless. I do not know what to do about any of it so I don't do anything, as I am not working because when I hit the last burnout, (Actually the last few) they hit me so hard (And they hit me after I had a part time low hours job again. Been over a decade since I could work full time) that I realized that if I had anotjer burnout, I would risk being dissabled through it, so I finally reached out for help.
I am now on government benefits which is said to not be a lot (I think it is a reasonable amount but if I did not live with My Mum I would not be able to survive from it). It is slightly more then when I was working, as I could hardly do any hours when I worked! But it is a LOT more then I had been getting when I went for years of no income while recovering inbetween burnouts.

I am fortunate that my Mum is still alive so I can live with her.
Going back to the origional question. I would not cope and I would instead find my tent, and one of my bicycles and head off not knowing where I would end up, and when I find it tough, I would give up.

I have no plans or security in that way.

Live one day at a time.

Prioritize mental health (by avoiding needless worry, pursuing distraction, etc.).

Have already faced some adversity and know that I can survive it.

Being resourceful about finding/managing benefits to help with poverty.

Retirement is for people who are in the middle/upper economic classes. Poor people in general (disabled or not) already have experience with people not being able to retire, so it's less scary for us. We've seen our parents, neighbors, etc. survive without retirement, we're used to managing with very few resources, no big deal. And we generally have our current poverty to keep us living in the moment (rather than worrying about the future).

I feel like any honest financial answer wouldn't be useful to others because it's very luck determined. Let's just say my family's comfortable and have made sure I'm comfortable unless I choose to be an idiot after their deaths (I don't plan on it...)

My main concern is learning skills. I have to make sure I can cook healthy meals, wash my own clothes, clean a house etc. Mum will teach me just after I leave home. I already know how to travel by train and bus and don't live somewhere where I'd have to be able to drive.

Mum's nightmare is I end up with a carer. I'm not sure. I had good TAs at school and bad TAs. A good carer, I wouldn't mind but I'd hate a bad carer sticking their nose into my business.

I'll be alone though. I say I don't feel lonely but I think that will be a lie after mum actually dies. What I don't do is feel like 'oh she's physically absent' = the same thing as 'she's not with me' when she texts so much... I'll really miss her once she's actually gone.

She's only in her 50s though so it's quite unlikely something would happen to her soon.

What is the good of worrying?

What purpose does it serve?

Fact is,worrying amongst other negative thoughts and patterns,are just self defeating mechanisms.

So why buy into it?

We are not our minds and the masters of our own ships,including the mind.

Sadly,people succumb to there lower minds.

And for good reason.

Method in madness.

When you become the master of your own ship,

everything becomes effortless,

no worrying,no negative thoughts.

Just programming and or a junk tv station running outdated scripts.

Just observe negative thoughts as they arise,don't react.

Align with positive thinking.

There is no need to worry,

go with the flow of nature.

Unconditional love,

no expectations.

It just is,

the flow of life.


Life is only as hard as you succumb to the mind.
Become the master of your own ship.

Live with friends

Panhandling

Busking

Recycling

Self employed

Telecommute

Government benefits

Alimony

Real estate investment

I've been homeless a bit and recovered, so it is less of a fear. I don't need any help for daily living, but the skill comes in around living on less. One good dodge was renting a house, and then subletting the nice parts and living in the basement. I buy ingredients, not prepared food. I know where to find used things for cheap, and how to fix them if necessary. If I wanted to, I could buy and sell at garage sales and make a large profit through cleaning, repairing, and patience. In a pinch, I can make a home in a car, to either hole up or explore new areas.

Mountain Goat: wouldn't your mother give you the house should she pass away?

Medical research subject

Sleep in waiting rooms such as airport

Gambling

I don't like worrying about things I can't control. It's much better to take some actions. It's never too late to learn to manage money. You might get an inheritance someday and you must know how to best use it. I grew up in poverty. I took two personal finance classes in college and post on frugality forums. I'm confident that I can handle my finance no matter how much or how little money I have.

You don't have to take classes (they cost money). Borrow some books and start reading and learning. Hone your cooking skills, gardening skills and home repair skills. Browse thrift stores and know how to find gems for very little. Nobody knows about the future. A healthy NT may lose his ability to work due to illness or injury as well. It's always good to have confidence in your own abilities to manage.

I hope to get a job once the pandemic winds down enough for me to feel like I can get a driver's license. I'm a little worried about whether I could pass a job interview though. I've never had one. I applied at several places in walking distance of my house before the pandemic and never heard back, but I was probably overqualified. Except for traveling I think I could live by myself just fine if I could get and hold a job that paid enough.

I'm currently in college but I live at home with my family. We aren't wealthy or anything like that, but we manage luckily. I try to do what I can to help out, especially with cleaning. I'm working on cooking too, because I have always hated cooking. I hope to move out and find a reasonable apartment as soon as I finish my education (going for a degree and then a year-long coding program after so I'm hoping I'll be finished in Spring 2022) and get a steady job so I can make sure I can afford to maintain an apartment. I do drive and hope to own my own car soon, right now I share one. Where I live, it's pretty much a necessity to drive and although cars and caring for them can be expensive, it's always seemed like it's worth it. If I lived in the city though, it would be different perhaps and I'd be more likely to be able to get places by walking.

I had a steady pet care job until the pandemic caused the owner of the pets to have to work from home. I still occasionally am able to care for the pets but it is nowhere near as frequent so I don't earn much right now and with the holidays, I'm spending what I earn on gifts.

I like what y-pod said about borrowing and reading books and browsing thrift stores. There are also tons of tips and guidance online for skills. I've been using the internet to find recipes that I actually want to make to help me with cooking.

Has anyone had experience of finally loosing your main care giver i.e parents to old age.

What happened after how did you manage?

If any of you are in the US, have any of you considered VR Services?

Vocational Rehab (VR for short) is an unemployment branch that specializes in helping people with developmental disorders (such as people on the spectrum) find proper employment.