I am really hyper sensitive. Is this a trait of Aspergers?

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I mean sensitive to the things people say and I do take many things personally and replay them over and over in my head. I am not sure if this is a part of having Aspegers or if this something else.

same here. As soon as someone turns towards me to say something, my stress level goes up. I’m scared of what they may say and what that would mean. I don’t even know why I have this reaction. Must be hypersensitivity.

I'm also very emotionally sensitive. I always have been. I also cry easily sometimes.

I've noticed with autism there's usually some social anxiety involved. The only way to get rid of it is to throw yourself into the deep end and do things you don't like so you get used to it and it'll eventually (after a few years) go away.

Try to not lose your empathy though because then you'll become a monster everyone hates known as a narcissist.

I'm also very emotionally sensitive, but I figured it's to do with anxiety, as NTs with anxiety may relate well to this too.

People tell me that I take things too personally, but my brain says one thing while my heart says another. For example, if somebody told me off about something fairly reasonable, my brain will say "they're just doing their job and I understand why they had to tell me off", but my heart says "why don't people just leave me alone and stop telling me what to do? I feel all silly now and I will go away and cry." I think it's a feeling of becoming all hyperaware of myself all of a sudden.

Like if I got told off on a crowded bus by the driver for standing too close to the front, my emotions will kick in and I'll probably start crying as soon as I get off the bus. A 'normal' person will just forget about in like 10 seconds and not feel any emotion towards it. Strangely though, if I'm not the only being told off, I don't feel so much emotion and instead I find it easier to shrug off.

And NTs "reek of emotion", says Aspies? I think I feel more emotion about everything than most NTs. It can be very disabling at times.

I think part of this could come from trauma and being hyper vigilant. We might be feeling unprepared for interactions with others, or associate emotional or physical trauma with interactions due to past experience. I became very defensive and sensitive to comments and behavior of others as a sort of self defense mechanism. What helped me was learning healthy self assertive behavior. Once I had the tools to defend myself in verbal interactions and understood about being manipulated through aggression, social pressure, guilt, etc etc, I noticed a lot of the hyper sensitive behavior went away. I think for me, it was a sort of response to feeling helpless in so many situations where I had not learned the way to set boundaries, to say no, and to recognize and defend myself against unhealthy behavior of others. I got therapy and the therapist used a book called "when I say NO I feel guilty" by Manuel J Smith. There are lots of websites and books about learning to be self assertive in healthy ways. It gets easier and better with practice. The book probably saved my life and sanity. If you don't think you can do it alone, find a therapist/ life coach to help you. I had to have a lot of things explained to me because I was not able to sort it out on my own. ( probably autism involved there, that's OK). Sending best wishes