Who "broke the ice" in encouraging friendships?

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With my own personal experiences with High Functioning Autism (HFA), more often than not, a thoughtful third party person "broke the ice." It proved most helpful when the third party person remained "in the loop."

On the contrary, I cannot remember a time when I personally initiated friendships.

Personally, I'm increasingly favoring developing friendships with those very third party people -- who've had experiences in "breaking the ice" to encourage friendships.

Such awesome third party people ("yes, yes, I know, quality people are hard to find") are likely NTs (or NT-like people with HFA) who've had mainly formal experiences with HFA; yet are receptive towards the more informal get-togethers.

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Can such awesome people concerned with (HFA) PLEASE chime in to this discussion thread???

With all due respect, I don't really get what you mean.
I tend to get along better with other neuronontypicals.

/Mats

A role I've played once upon a time... Especially online -- though, little to do with AS nor anyone knowing about that.

It IS a role that many is willing to go to trust and be friends with.

A role that would give credit to, say, authenticity of some character or some business.
A role where people would ground themselves when meeting or going something new.

And yes, I made people met other people and see them match. Then they became friends indeed, with me as a common link or mutual friend of sorts.

It is also a headache sometimes.


It's a basic hosting and networking skill in my point of view... Excellent role to link one party to another.
So yeah, it makes some sense to me.



Except I quit that dynamic. It's exhausting for me. I still have some of the contacts though.
Just that I don't initiate or set up things anymore.

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I can say that I have never initiated a friendship in my life. The few friendships I’ve had, if I recall correctly, it was always the other person who initiated and first showed interest in friendship. But I’m not quite HFA (moderate functioning, not high).

I've had terrific experiences in becoming acquainted with people experienced with working with the developmentally disabled. I'm glad that such people were receptive towards better understanding the concerns of (HFA) High Functioning Autism.

As mentioned previously, I feel it's favorable to develop friendships with people who've had experiences with (HFA) adults -- PLEASE chime in to this discussion thread!

Among the friendships I've had over the years, including my best and longest-lasting friendships, it was usually the other person who initiated it.

However, although the other person usually took the initiative in terms of getting to know me personally, I was far from totally passive. I generally had to make a point of putting myself in situations where I would be likely to find potential friends in the first place.