Do you ever wonder if you make a desirable friend??

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So I often sometimes think about someday actually being capable of having friends for me as I am and if I have any qualities others would want in a friend.. I mean yeah I guess there's interests shared etc but also with other dynamics as most people seem to be far more complex than just interests shared between people. I doubt that I have much if anything appealing to others in the sense of being a likeable person who would be worthy of befriending and am always on the outside of such circles and think it's more than just the fact of being autistic.. if you have IRL friends do you find you are liked for reasons other than just what you share in common and how you met and stuff.

^^^it might be along the lines of not wanting to go along to get along.

I think I settled on me not understanding the concept of friendship, and I was unable to keep any.
I don't know if I make a desirable one, to be honest.

I have one acquaintance in real life that I used to be friends with and recently started talking to again, and one online friend that I've had for three or so years.

I've had a lot of different friends, but haven't been able to keep most of them. Besides for having hobbies in common or being able to do things for people, it seems like most people don't really become friends with me for other reasons.

i'm too "uncanny valley" for 99% of people.

I know I don’t. I’m likeable enough (if people actually get to know me), but not a good friend. Several things make me unreliable, is one of the main issues.



If only the problem was just being (or not being) sober, at least I’d know what it was. But it’s just something inherent about me. Never intentional, but that doesn’t change things.

My (few) friends share my general values. We do each other favours when it is convenient, not keeping score. I'd be really desirable if other people wanted to take advantage of my life's work.

I have two friends who I share values with. I'd rather be around people than go along to get along.

Desirable - no.
Worthy - I try and fail.

I have low capacity for managing friendships so only a couple of low-maintainence, reliably tolerant ones remain.

Do I ever wonder if I make a desirable friend??

I'm a skunk.
What do you think?

I'm not a people person and find it hard to make and keep friends.
I'm also compulsively honest.
That is bad in terms of friendships.

Such is life.

I usually scare my friends away over time. Most people do not want to hang out with my Dr. Frankenstein side of my personality.

Not often; I've already concluded that for one reason or other, or actually, most likely several, I'm not really sought after friend material. I mean I do have friends, but I'm not really close with them... actually, cancel that. I suppose most of those people are just people with some same interests who like me enough to not actively try to get rid of me when we meet in places related to those interests, but who wouldn't go out of their way to actually get to see me. Even the ones I sometimes hang out with are ones that I have to ask to hang out with me.

I've got friends online, but I feel like that doesn't really count the same way.

Do I ever wonder if I make a desirable friend??

I'm a skunk.
What do you think?