Does my sister deserve criticising for this one moment?

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Mum and me were talking about kitchen diners/dining rooms.

Mum says 'I was always traditional, you always had to eat at the table. I'm glad you've maintained that tradition'.

Me: 'Yeah I can have snacks in front of TV but not dinner'

Mum: 'I wonder why people eat in front of TV'

Me (Thinking she means 'every single night'): 'It's couch potato type of people like in The Royle Family sitcom. They're addicted to TV'

Mum: 'I remember [your step-sister] doing it. She had a bacon sandwich. She just said hand it over. So rude! She did it because she's spoilt'

Um... that was 5 years ago. It was one time. We have eaten plenty meals with her. She was kind of sad at the time after breaking up with her bf. I do it more than that.

Only thing I can think is maybe it's rude cos she's a guest? But she's my stepdad's family & my favourite step sister.

How do you mean?

Your mum expressed a critique regarding your step-sister. 

I expressed a critique regarding your mum.

Someone will likely express a critique regarding me.

Expressing critiques invites corresponding critiques.

If/When I am critiqued, that will support the previous claim.

This is not a highly scientific idea or process, and anyone familiar with logic could probably negate it in its entirety; but my main point is that I believe your step-sister deserved the opinion your mother expressed of her.

OK.

I'll offer the critique.

I believe opinions ought to be based in fact and logic or at least reasons.

Rather than hunches or devil's advocate or hidden reasons.

Or what mum's doing which is picking favourites. She doesn't like her step-kids so everything her step-kids do gets seen through a negative lens.

Personally I don't think my step-sister deserved critique because mum has seen me do the same thing/even encouraged me to do the same thing 'oh darling it's ok to watch this show, come and watch it with us, bring your dinner in here' and not called me spoilt.

Personally I think she might deserve criticism as perhaps this is something that is only acceptable in your own home and as a one off.

I'm genuinely torn on it.

I can't understand things unless they have clear reasons which can be explained to me. There's a right and wrong answer. Even if I don't know it.