Getting rejected by other aspies

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I've mentioned elsewhere that I got kicked out of my local autism group. I was afraid to mention more details because I don't know if anyone from that group might be on WP and recognize who I am and dox me.

But I decided I'll just do it.

I made a post on Facebook about my history with sexual abuse. When I went back online hours later, I found messages from the admin telling that I started a problem because many of members who had also experienced sexual abuse got triggered after reading my post. Note that there had been no previously established requirement to include a trigger warning on posts relating to the subject of sexual abuse.

I made another post saying that I was considering leaving the group on Facebook. I also expressed thought of suicide in the post. The post received a bunch likes, which told me I'm rather hated in this group. So I left the Facebook group. I was later informed by group admins that I'm no longer welcome at local meetings, because some members threatened to stop attending if I was present.

So it turns out that aspies are just as capable as neurotypicals of being complete a$$holes. Who knew?

The fact that I'm still alive after getting rejected even by other rejects is almost enough to convince me that miracles are real.

Do you realize that Facebook can sometimes be ridiculous ?

Just join another group.

Make sure you insert a “trigger warning” next time.

Maybe contact the administrator, and apologize?

Just say something like you were under a lot of stress at the time, and that you will put a “trigger warning” in next time. That you made a mistake.

And maybe don’t get too graphic the first time.

Hope you're coping OK dorkseid, that's such an unfair thing to happen!

Hi:

Those admin don't sound like they are very supportive. I would think they would have talked to you via private message rather than shame you like that. On the other hand, it may not be a good idea to share your whole story on Facebook like that.

You may benefit from online medium called "7Cups." They have online counselors and other supports that you can talk to.

They're called ass pies for a reason.

I know someone who was forced to start using their real name on Facebook because Facebook say they want people to know who they're talking to. Ironically, people knew him in real life by his "fake" name too so when he changed it no-one relised who they were talking to.

They're called ass pies for a reason.

Dorkseid, your autism support group sounds a lot like one that I have associated with before. They preach about acceptance and inclusion when it boils down to things, they are very picky. They also kick people out of the group for some of the silliest reasons too.

For instance, I was using their sensory rooms, one of the other members decided to put a not through the slatted door in there that read, "Hi," and she got kicked out for a little while.

Another good friend of mine got a warning about being "Too loud," during video game nights.

i don't know dude

suicide, child abuse, rape, murder, serial murder etc. (not saying you have mentioned all these things)
all fairly distressing topics

you got to remember the internet is full of loads of different folk
especially ASD groups

there are some who are mature, intelligent
but there are also some who may be low functioning, who misunderstand things
who also get upset really easy

i have met such types myself, who i have upset by doing almost nothing

so i just steer clear of these ones
as i don't want to upset people

but i also don't want to take the flack that comes my way
when or if i do upset them

I have not been told by Facebook management to use my real name.
Reading these messages, it seems to me that different people are having different experiences with Facebook.