SharonB wrote:
My evaluator told me that I hide my ASD much better than I think I do. I'm starting to understand that although my ASD feels so obvious to me, others can't see it. During and after diagnosis, I've stopped censoring myself and started explaining myself more and now folks are "seeing" it. It was always there, people!
Although I have the ASD diagnosis, my daughter does not --- similar to your concern, the psychiatrist said she's introverted: it's a choice that a highly-engaged child in the classroom sits apart from all her classmates at recess and lunch. It's awful, I hate it, but I'm getting her the help she needs anyway and we'll go for a 2nd opinion at some point. There are women in my ASD support group who've had to get second opinions. It stinks b/c it's like "digging" for the diagnosis --- but more often it's a failure in diagnostic criteria.
I have ASD, my BFF may have -or not. She is introverted and has had a greatly controlled life (incl. financial freedom) and therefore hardly any meltdowns or shutdowns. In the meantime, I am extroverted and have had less control and therefore have meltdowns... often. Yet, truly, I believe my BFF and I are at similar functioning levels (which look different b/c of varied external demands). I don't know that the medical community would see that.
Wishing you well as you ride this emotional roller coaster of evaluation. Hang in there.
Yes, that is very much like me! I am introverted and micromanage my life. Shutdowns are a fairly regular occupancy, but meltdowns are fairly rare and are “internal meltdowns”.