I just want someone to cuddle with :cry:

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If I have to see another happy couple, I'm going to vomit.

I'm constantly reminded of how lonely and isolated I am. I go to work alone. I may take one call from a live human being a night. I come home to an empty apartment. My landlord has refused my requests for me to get a pet. I'm very desperate for affection and love. My heart aches when I have to sit in this damn apartment alone. I've tried so hard to develop a relationship with a woman but I think at this stage I'm going to die a bitter, lonely, old man. I've tried cuddling stuffed animals but they don't reciprocate. That is to say they don't tell me how much they love me. My soul aches for the embrace of a friend or a woman that can tell me how much they love me and cherish me.

I'm so desperate, I'd be willing to pay someone to hug me and tell me how much of a special persona I am. I can do up to $75 per hour.

etoo,and I'm homeless and "look" homeless and nobody's cuddled me for years!! !! !! !! !

All you have to do is put your mind to it!

I hope things improve with you soon!

im with ya man, im 24 years old, i dont know how old u r, but they say about 40 is when it goes down hill, i have this grand vision of how life should be, find women who understands me, and loves me for who i am, and i do the same for her, have 1 or 2 kids, move into a larger house, live happily ever after, im willing to bust my @$$ every day at a horrible job to achive this, but have not, i dont wanna give up, ive tryed the internet, i dont know where else to turn. I 2 live alone, and am alone most of the week. We both have to get out their man, somehow, do something... i dont know what... We have to leave our confort zone!

How old r ya if u dont mind me asking? I have 16 years left i figure, but feel i should not put off searching much longer... The older u r the harder it gets...

we don't have those where I live

I'd volunteer at the animal shelter but that would be as heartbreaking.

Well if its any hope to you, my boyfriend (Dx with aspergers as well) and I began our relationsip by first being cuddle friends.
We were looking for other people on a mutual website to meetup with in our area, and I had identified someone at my college. He said something like, "Hurry up and find her. It says she likes to cuddle and I need someone to cuddle with." I replied, "Hey, what about me, I need a cuddle buddy too" and clarified the popular misconception about me dating my best friend on the site. And that's how we became cuddle friends.

That's what I'm looking for. I don't know where to look for a "cuddle friend".

I'd hug you right now if i could. ^^

OK, first point is that you shouldn't try too hard to find a partner because it will probably look too obvious.

Now, next step. Instead of sitting in your apartment alone night after night you need to get out and put yourself in situations where you can meet members of the opposite sex under 'normal' circumstances. Avoid nightclubs, avoid bars, but try clubs and societies with a mixed sex membership.

Finally, consider computer dating. Be honest when you fill out the application form and be realistic when you specify what sort of woman you are looking for. I was a member of a computer dating organization for two years, I started off hopeless but at the end of the two years I was having the time of my life.

Hope this helps.

Ed Almos

I don't know about the size of city you are in, but try hanging out at the bookstores, especially if there's a B&N with a Starbucks. Avoid the geek sections like science-fiction, RPGs and manga, but camp out in the poetry, current events, or self help sections. If you hate poetry, pick up some T.S. Eliot to read. Ask women what authors they recommend. DO NOT TALK ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS, DATES, CUDDLING, ETC.!

A piece of advice a friend gave me many years ago that I did not understand at the time, but that has helped me recently is very simple. Be a teddy bear.

I've gone from the guy so scary that I was fired from jobs because women were scared to be around me to the guy who routinely gets hugs from two of the motherly women I work with. You can change your life too. It may not be easy, but it will be worth it.

Good luck.