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Now I see why aspies have such difficulties with relationships.

I was working on on of the realistic missions at hackthissite.org. I started at about 1 pm. I was planning to get a ride to badminton at 3:30, but I didn't check the time until 4:45. I just focused on that and, and forgot to check the time. I also forgot to eat anything. Now I know my girlfriend (who also has AS) probably did go to badminton, and would certainly have been expecting me too turn up. I've been trying to call her for the last 15 minutes, to apologize. I can't get through. It's now 5:30. She really wasn't happy last week when I was sick, had the day off school, and forgot to tell her that I wouldn't be at badminton.

I feel like crap right now.

I got to the last stage of the mission (realistic 11). I've learnt a lot about Perl scripts, unix commands, piping, directory traversal, cookie stealing and XSS, SQLite databases, Javascript injection via the user-agent, the futility of security through obscurity, and got more practice at client-side data modification, general javascript and PHP, research skills, and also patience and persistence. I've almost certainly pissed off my girlfriend as well.

yes, she must be very pissed off.

You have to nurture/feed the relationship. If you don't call her (like in the day off), she'll begin to think that you don't care.

many aspies have trouble with priorities, be aware of that.

Oooo! I do that! I forget to sleep because I become intensely focused on a project. I have gone 81 hours without sleep - my record. Here's some advice: Do not do that, you will begin to hallucinate after ~ 50 hours - really. But, I am productive in that state. If your girlfriend's feelings are hurt, she'll get over it. Flowers might be in order too after the transgression.

I hope she understands. I've done that a few times, just went into tunnel vision mode on something interesting and then notice it's the next day.

81 hours!

Wow.

Hallucination after 50 hours? Interesting.

Cool site!!

Now thank you in advance for depriving me of sleep tonight.

That said, I will be hoping you can patch things up with her. Don't beat yourself up about it...I've done stuff like this so many times myself. We get focused on something and it's all over. Does she know you're an Aspie?

I found myself getting really interested and excited about the computer stuff you were saying rather than thinking about the girlfriend situation - maybe it is possible for aspies to have a more deep and fulfilling relationship with our computers than with another person ... so dump the girlfriend and marry the computer ha!ha!

That's great news, tell me is the time as slow
only when your eyes are closed?

Give her a suprise date, movies or something.
Just make sure she'll be available though :p

Do something to make up for it, such as a pickup badmiton game.
She'll appreciate it.

OMG, as an NT I would expect that from my AS bf. I would either call him and say "hello, you are missing" or just let him be and ask how his night went, tell him I wished he was there and smooch him. I think I am wierder...

Make it up by letting her hit you with the badminton rack...

I agree, send flowers.

Beenthere, yes, she knows. She's been diagnosed too. And yes, HackThisSite is pretty cool. I'm on there as thebeginingoftheend, and I'm about 3 or 4 away from finishing all the realistic missions. I really want to finish this one. . . but not today. I've learned my lesson.

Alexbeetle, I was more interested in the computer stuff than I was in looking at the clock, remembering appointments, eating, etc.

Well, I talked to her today, and she wasn't too angry. I feel a lot better now. It almost seems a let down after all the worrying I did. It doesn't look like flowers or a surprise date will necessary. That's probably a good thing, as I'm still broke after we went halves is a full booster box of MTG cards and opened them together. It's the fact that I can be as geeky as that with her that makes me really want to keep this relationship together.

On one hand - she's perfect. She's almost as geeky as I am. On the other hand, I probably wouldn't cope well if it all went wrong suddenly. And that's why I'm worrying so much.

Edit: as another example of excessive worrying, I really hope she's not reading this. That would be embarrassing.