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Caz72
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06 Nov 2022, 7:29 pm

i was born 3 months premature but even when i got to a few months old my parents said i never cried just made squeaking noises
even at night i never cried even when i wanted my bottle

i might have cried a little bit if i had a pain but apparently i never cried loud at all

i never had meltdowns as a toddler either..in fact my first ever meltdown was when i was about 11 when puberty kivked in

i didnt speak until i was 8 but i never had meltdown to express my feelings because i didnt seems to really have feelings or know how to communicate by meltdowns i just existed and got on with it
sometimes i sobbed but quietly and this wasnt frequent

but no crying as a baby.anyone else not cry as a baby.?


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06 Nov 2022, 7:39 pm

My mother says that I used to cry all night.



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06 Nov 2022, 7:44 pm

I also haven't cried. I came out of my mother's womb without crying, so doctors gave me something similiar to kofein even tho I was perfectly "healthy". And I haven't cried for food either, my parents had to schedule me my food.



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06 Nov 2022, 8:35 pm

My parents said that I rarely cried as a baby, even as a newborn. I apparently didn't even wake up and cry to be fed, which scared them because none of my siblings did that.

I think that I've always been pretty quiet and content by myself, and that I've never asked for help much, so me not feeling compelled to cry for food or attention as a baby doesn't surprise me. lol



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06 Nov 2022, 10:00 pm

I was a real crier as a baby.


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08 Nov 2022, 12:15 pm

I have no idea because I don't remember being a baby.
My mum says that I was always very quiet and wanted to be left alone with a book.
I doubt she's talking about my infancy if I was alone with a book.

The only comment I remember about me as a baby is that I slept best in pitch dark on my tummy.
That's still the same today.


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08 Nov 2022, 4:17 pm

My parents have remarked that I was unusually quiet as a baby (but that they weren't complaining). They used to have an old camcorder. I've watched my old baby videos. There's a mixture of videos of my sister and videos of me. Based on the footage I've seen, I think I understand what they meant.

For example, there's a video of me and my sister sat next to each other. I'm sitting there and I want a toy that's on the floor. Yet I don't cry. I point at my sister. Then I point at the toy. I point at myself. Back to the toy. Point at myself. Then I point at my sister again. Which seems to be my way of communicating You. Toy. Me. It's there. I'm here. You can solve this problem. Bring it to me. :lol:

My sister understands this and brings me the toy. I don't seem to acknowledge this and turn all my attention to the toy in my hands. Likewise, there are videos where I seem upset but I don't cry. I just start throwing things instead. There's one video where my mum says "No! We don't throw things!" and in response I throw something else at a wall. :lmao:

I very much seem to be in my own world. My sister seems more responsive to my parents - laughing, smiling, bringing things to them during play and trying to talk verbally. Whereas when I'm given a toy I just ignore everyone and start trying to figure out how it works by myself. It seems odd since I come across as unusually reliant on gestures. There are moments where I vocalise words and sounds, so clearly I can at this point to a limited degree, but I seem to choose not to for some reason (shyness?). I remember watching a video where I have a toy and my parents are asking me about it, trying to get me to engage with them and I appear to make a flick of the wrist gesture (which is typically used to signal Go Away ). I can't say for certain if I was communicating that, but it's somewhat amusing to think that I might've been.


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08 Nov 2022, 5:15 pm

i didnt speak until i was 8

but the typical nonverbal autistic child usually communicates by having meltdowns.i had no meltdowns.no tantrums.i only cried when i was hurt but never ever screamed

doesmt mean to say i was easy though
i was so quiet that my parents didnt know where i was and had to always keep an eye on me because i had no sense of danger and would wander off
one time when i was 6 i somehow managed to wander off on to a hardware store and kept picking up random items and placing them on the counter like it was a game
the shopkeeper started to wander what on earth was going on and she took me outside to see if i could spot my parents.i had no interest in who my parents were but lucky they spotted me and took me
but they couldnt get mad at me because they knew i wouldnt react to any punishment or learn from anything

i started to break out of my own world once i began talking and i became more aware of the world and hidden rules and all that


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08 Nov 2022, 5:57 pm

I think I started talking on time, or even a bit early, but I don't think I talked a lot. People didn't understand what I was saying 90% of the time until I went to speech therapy, so I remember not bothering to talk sometimes.

I also don't think I used a lot of gestures until I was older. I tried to, but I've always been very uncoordinated, so I couldn't copy or execute gestures that well and people didn't always know what I was trying to communicate.



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08 Nov 2022, 7:17 pm

When I was born I went from hospital straight onto our boat for vacation.
I hadn't even been in the house yet.
I always wonder if the motion of the boat was really soothing like a stim.
I remember being a happy toddler on the boat, but I don't remember before that.

As I got older I had hella big meltdowns when I was forced to go to hotels or on holiday without the boat.
I hated having to socialise, talk to people, go outside in the sun, or change my routine.
I just wanted to stay in my bedroom with my books, or in a tent in the garden.


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08 Nov 2022, 7:23 pm

HeroOfHyrule wrote:
I think I started talking on time, or even a bit early, but I don't think I talked a lot. People didn't understand what I was saying 90% of the time until I went to speech therapy, so I remember not bothering to talk sometimes.

I also don't think I used a lot of gestures until I was older. I tried to, but I've always been very uncoordinated, so I couldn't copy or execute gestures that well and people didn't always know what I was trying to communicate.


I did speech therapy at school starting about age 6 or 7, for mutism and later for pronunciation.
People always made fun of my accent or couldn't understand me.
I've had adult Speech-Language Pathologists in the past few years as well.


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08 Nov 2022, 8:13 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I did speech therapy at school starting about age 6 or 7, for mutism and later for pronunciation.
People always made fun of my accent or couldn't understand me.
I've had adult Speech-Language Pathologists in the past few years as well.

I had speech therapy for a couple years after I started special ed. in the first grade. I've always had issues with articulating my words, constructing comprehensive sentences, etc. I should have had speech therapy for longer, and it probably wouldn't hurt for me to have it as an adult. I still have issues all the time with people being able to understand me.



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08 Nov 2022, 8:19 pm

I spoke well in my career because it was a topic of great interest and I was always prepared.
In my casual life I don't speak much at all.
I'm completely mute around some people.
Other people make me stressed out and I go monosyllabic.
I started Adult SLP after my big stroke when it was part of rehab.
They realised quickly that I should have stayed in the program after childhood.


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08 Nov 2022, 9:28 pm

I don't talk much to anyone besides for my aunt and my friend, because other people don't always understand me and I have anxiety about speaking due to it. Everyone else I only really can manage short responses, if I can get any out at all. I also can relate to being rendered mute around some people. There's people that I work directly with and have worked with for 7 months, and that I can't get myself to even just greet them because my brain won't let me speak near or to them. I try to talk to them and it's like I physically can't even begin to make a sound.



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08 Nov 2022, 9:32 pm

Same ^.
I can't say hello to my own mother even when I'm caring for her.

Would you be able to see a Speech pathologist?
Some of them are also voice actors or stage singers, so they're experts in clarity.
Another thing to consider is that you might have a tongue or lip tie.


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07 Apr 2023, 3:21 pm

I was born on my due date and I also never cried as a baby. I was a quiet baby.


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