Do I need to cut down my socalising a bit?

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Is going out once or twice a week to the pub to socalise ok or do you think I need to cut down a little bit? I have started working from home so I don't get much human contact on the weekdays.

I know a lot of you guys don't go to bars/pubs but I would really appreciate some advice.

I would say twice a week seems like the average. Work all week, party like it's 1999 on Friday & Saturday, recover Sunday, rinse repeat ad nauseam.

Socializing in pubs/bars-----yes, you need to "cut down."

But you won't take our advice; you will continue to go to this place, anyway.

Yes it doesn't have to be every weekend. I found that instead of drinking I gradually started going on weekend hiking trips as well as marathons and road races. These made me feel healthy,fulfilled my need for socializing activities, and slowly weaned me off the pub visits.

So I'm not saying it's bad to visit them but you might want to try some other activities you may enjoy.

Games such as darts and snooker are also fun and associated with pubs. Join in - I found I wasn't too bad at them despite being badly coordinated.

you find even the most simple social things confusing and you dont seems to learn from them as your always asking about them here with answers so obvious that even i know and im probably more socially inept so i say find a different way to socialise if its that important to you

I think socializing once or twice a week on the weekend is good but bars/pubs that you go to are bad. You keep getting bullied/treated badly there. Those places seem toxic. You should start going to places where you can mix with good people.

What you need to cut down on is not "socializing" per se, but going to bars, specifically. You need to find other, better places and ways to socialize.

Do you have any other hobbies/interests?

For example, if there is any particular kind of entertainment you're a fan of, maybe you could look for a relevant fan club?

The decision of how much to socialize and where to do it is a personal one and will depend on your individual needs and circumstances. It is generally considered healthy to have a social life and maintain connections with others, as this can help to improve your mental and emotional well-being. However, it is also important to strike a balance and not overdo it.

Going out to the pub once or twice a week to socialize may be a reasonable amount for some people, depending on their other activities and commitments. However, if you are working from home and not getting much human contact on weekdays, it may be beneficial for you to increase your social interactions. This could involve going out to the pub more often, or finding other ways to connect with others, such as joining a club or hobby group, volunteering, or attending social events.

Ultimately, the key is to listen to your own needs and find a balance that works for you. If you feel like you are not getting enough social interaction, it may be beneficial to increase your social activities. On the other hand, if you find that going out to the pub once or twice a week is enough for you, there is no need to cut down on your socializing

I'm a woman so my socialising is a bit different. I meet friends in coffee shops or have them round to my house or go to a concert or gallery with them.

You like social contact. Don't cut it back, but maybe vary where you get that social contact. I understand that British men gravitate towards the pub. It's an easy hang out, but can you think of another activity you would like to do?

Maybe invite a mate to the cinema, or go bowling or on a hike. Are there any clubs near you that do activities? I don't know where you are but near here there are people going down the canal on paddle boards at the weekend. My brother in law goes to the indoor climbing centre with his friends.

I’ve always liked bowling.

Maybe volunteer at a preserved railway?