how to cope with any new year

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a lot of us on the spectrum don't well handle new things, unfamiliar things, unknown quantities, we tend to not be great at just rolling with the flow or winging it. i want to know how y'all handle the heretofore unknown new year's? for me, i try to pretend it is still january, at least until i get my tax forms from the IRS and local gov't entities, then january hits hard. i play xmas music and leave my xmas lights up throughout the year also in a try at evening out the disparity between the holiday season and the new year.

The way I see it, the supposed meaningful significance of New Years is merely an arbitrary ceremonial construct.

Other than the numerals written for the date, nothing in life is actually different.

but for many of us it FEELS different, vaguely threatening as it is an unknown with new challenges rather than the known challenges of the previous [new] year. just sayin'

I just have to remember to make it a 3 on the end of the date and not a 2 - if I can do that, the rest is exactly the same as any other day/year.

Meet the New Year, same as the Old Year.

I’m just relieved that Christmas is over.

Don't get me wrong, I often like a degree of consistency. Yet, the idea of going through another year without anything changing, well that sounds like a nightmare to me.

huh. honestly, it's never bothered me personally.

What new crisis are we going to go through this year? WWIII? A rabies pandemic? Zombie viruses because of climate change? People who think the New Year is somehow going to not be even worse than the old one are living in a dream world.

I don't think of it at all anymore; but I don't work, go to school, or do much of anything at all for that matter. I'm a homebody to the extreme. I never know what day of the week it is, and I tend to forget the year a lot to. The new year is pretty meaningless to me. It's just another day like any other.

The change of the year slightly annoys me for some reason

For me it's just an arbitrary construct with little meaning beyond noting that the shops and amenities might close for a while, there might be some noise and dangerous driving out there, I'll have to start a new volume of my diary and summarise the old one for easy reference to the highlights of my adventures, and it might be wise to wish a few people a happy new year.

I do get a bit of a sense of something different, a kind of "well, well, another year done," but it's not very profound. Just like passing any other arbitrary milestone. It's only a new thing if you believe it is, so my advice to anybody who feels daunted by the newness of it would be to join the new-year atheists and to try to stop letting a trick of the mind bother them.

I don't make new year resolutions any more because I'm already doing as near my best as I can be bothered to, when it comes to self-improvement. It ain't broke so I don't intend to fix it, I'll just continue to tweak stuff when there appears to be merit in doing so.

As far as I'm concerned the winter solstice is the only real new year, when the sun does a very gradual u-turn and starts giving us more daylight.

Fresh Hell for me. ^

I don't like the unknown or the concept of "future".
I picture the new year like a big, blank, ominous calendar.
I don't like celebrating the arrival of things I don't know.

Also, it's depressing that the days start getting longer.
It's uphill all the way until June, for me.

I also hate the way we're supposed to transition from loving peaceful Christmas where it's the thought that matters, to "let's complain about all the junk we got for Christmas that we didn't want" (TV ads), to "let's go shopping for more junk" (Boxing Day), to drunken fools for New Year's Eve, to hungover on New Year's Day, to "I'm going to be a better person instantly because the calendar says so, and I'm able to achieve all my goals" in the first week of January, to "I hate resolutions and I never keep them" in the second week.

Like really, is everyone multipolar? -- because I'm not.

^^^that sign's a keeper