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19 Feb 2023, 3:46 pm

I remember back in high school I was saying to one of my ex friends how I found this girl in my class quite attractive. He then said to me “Well to her you are invisible” and “Loads of guys go for her”.


Was he trying to put me down by saying that to me or was he just being brutally honest?



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19 Feb 2023, 3:51 pm

I wish I could be invisible.

I don’t think your friend was being very nice.



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19 Feb 2023, 3:54 pm

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I wish I could be invisible.

I don’t think your friend was being very nice.



Well what message do you think he was trying to say to me when he said “You are invisible to her”



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19 Feb 2023, 4:15 pm

He might've just been trying to be honest.



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19 Feb 2023, 4:16 pm

Jamesy wrote:
WisteriaRose wrote:
I wish I could be invisible.

I don’t think your friend was being very nice.



Well what message do you think he was trying to say to me when he said “You are invisible to her”


He's telling you she's barely aware of you and that the interest was one-sided.


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19 Feb 2023, 4:19 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
WisteriaRose wrote:
I wish I could be invisible.

I don’t think your friend was being very nice.



Well what message do you think he was trying to say to me when he said “You are invisible to her”


He's telling you she's barely aware of you and that the interest was one-sided.



My female teacher called me a “handsome lad” once though so I don’t get how I could have been invisible?



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19 Feb 2023, 4:47 pm

Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
WisteriaRose wrote:
I wish I could be invisible.

I don’t think your friend was being very nice.



Well what message do you think he was trying to say to me when he said “You are invisible to her”


He's telling you she's barely aware of you and that the interest was one-sided.



My female teacher called me a “handsome lad” once though so I don’t get how I could have been invisible?


Maybe you should see if this female teacher is currently single.



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19 Feb 2023, 4:49 pm

Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
WisteriaRose wrote:
I wish I could be invisible.

I don’t think your friend was being very nice.



Well what message do you think he was trying to say to me when he said “You are invisible to her”


He's telling you she's barely aware of you and that the interest was one-sided.



My female teacher called me a “handsome lad” once though so I don’t get how I could have been invisible?


It sounds like you had more of a chance with the teacher than your crush.

One person finding you attractive doesn't mean another one does.


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19 Feb 2023, 5:06 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
WisteriaRose wrote:
I wish I could be invisible.

I don’t think your friend was being very nice.



Well what message do you think he was trying to say to me when he said “You are invisible to her”


He's telling you she's barely aware of you and that the interest was one-sided.



My female teacher called me a “handsome lad” once though so I don’t get how I could have been invisible?


It sounds like you had more of a chance with the teacher than your crush.

One person finding you attractive doesn't mean another one does.




Except my teacher is 40 years my senior



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19 Feb 2023, 5:08 pm

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Except my teacher is 40 years my senior


Indeed, but she noticed you meanwhile it sounds like the girl was oblivious to your existence.


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19 Feb 2023, 5:11 pm

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Except my teacher is 40 years my senior


Indeed, but she noticed you meanwhile it sounds like the girl was oblivious to your existence.



Not really a compliment someone who is a lot lot older noticing you is it?



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19 Feb 2023, 5:16 pm

Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Except my teacher is 40 years my senior


Indeed, but she noticed you meanwhile it sounds like the girl was oblivious to your existence.



Not really a compliment someone who is a lot lot older noticing you is it?


I'm not sure it matters whether or not it's a compliment or not.
It just means she evaluated you better than the girl who didn't know you existed.


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19 Feb 2023, 5:18 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Except my teacher is 40 years my senior


Indeed, but she noticed you meanwhile it sounds like the girl was oblivious to your existence.



Not really a compliment someone who is a lot lot older noticing you is it?


I'm not sure it matters whether or not it's a compliment or not.
It just means she evaluated you better than the girl who didn't know you existed.




I suppose the teacher calling me handsome is just her personal opinion and does not mean that it was true.



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19 Feb 2023, 5:20 pm

Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
WisteriaRose wrote:
I wish I could be invisible.

I don’t think your friend was being very nice.



Well what message do you think he was trying to say to me when he said “You are invisible to her”


He's telling you she's barely aware of you and that the interest was one-sided.



My female teacher called me a “handsome lad” once though so I don’t get how I could have been invisible?


Doesn't mean you're not attractive though. It just means she's not interested in you because you're not her type. Maybe you're too socially awkward.


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19 Feb 2023, 5:22 pm

Joe90 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
WisteriaRose wrote:
I wish I could be invisible.

I don’t think your friend was being very nice.



Well what message do you think he was trying to say to me when he said “You are invisible to her”


He's telling you she's barely aware of you and that the interest was one-sided.



My female teacher called me a “handsome lad” once though so I don’t get how I could have been invisible?


Doesn't mean you're not attractive though. It just means she's not interested in you because you're not her type. Maybe you're too socially awkward.



Yeah a lot of women might prefer guys with darker hair to me if your talking about the subject of ‘type’.



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19 Feb 2023, 5:26 pm

Maybe she doesn’t have Perception points high enough.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_9qYN1pEaY8&vl=en