Parents Asking About Girlfriends

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I was diagnosed with autism ever since I was a toddler. Even till this day, I struggle socially. It affects my ability to be in relationships. I’m single. I’m introverted and awful to be around. My parents keep asking me to get a girlfriend. How do I get them to stop?

Have you tried simply telling them to stop asking? Sometime you have to be simple, blunt and direct when dealing with people, especially when politeness doesn't work.

I told mine a lie. I said that I already had a BOYFRIEND and they could certainly meet him once he was out of prison. That stopped them asking in my case. whether they figured out it was a lie or were just too uncomfortable to ask any more I don't know.

That is beautiful. I might have steal that and say it to my mother the next time she starts in on me about 'getting back out there'. I'm sure I could track down some pic of generic scary looking dude. Could be fun. I might call him Geoffrey.

But yeah, simply asking them to stop asking should be sufficient. If they persist, ask again for them to stop and then ask them to please respect your wishes. That's usually enough for most people. Lying might work, or it might fail miserably. I'm not sure if they're the types who would then want to meet the partner you don't have. That could be problematic.

Okay. Why would they ask their son to find one?

tell them youd like a girlfriend but you cant find one cuz of the way you are

Okay. What does “find a girlfriend” mean?

My definition of girlfriend is someone who you have a sexual relationship with for more than six months , and you get along with well.

Anything less than that is a fling

I can rattle off some reasons as to why some people would want their child to have a gf/bf/whatever. They might worry that their child is lonely and that a partner could help with that. They might think a partner equals happiness and they want that for their child. The parents might be wanting grandchildren. The parents might be ageing and have a more realistic understanding that life as a single elderly person could be challenging or scary and not want that for their child. There could be tons of reasons.

I have no idea if things like that motivate your parents though. Have you asked them why they want you to find a gf despite you not seeming to be interested in such a thing for yourself?

Yes. I told them not at the moment.

Thats ...one way to deal with it!
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You forgot to mention sumpin'.

That your same sex convict fiance is...of the right religion!

Last edited by naturalplastic on 24 Feb 2023, 7:21 am, edited 2 times in total.

Ask your parents when they're going to get girlfriends